Telling the Difference Between Genuine Intrest and Friendlines


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ltj559 is offline ltj559 Post #1  January 3,2010, 8:21pm
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There is this girl in one of my classes and I am trying to figure out weather she is intrested in me or not.

For the past few weeks, she has been sitting next to me every lecture and asking me questions about my life. Books I am reading, what I did over the weekend, classes I am thinking of taking, ect. It just seems wierd that she is doing this considering I have never met her before.

Ive been wondering if this means that she likes me. If she is I would definatly ask her out. To be honest I noticed her the first day of class, but didnt think much of her because I figured she was out of my league. However if this is just her being nice, I would want to know as to avoid a whole bunch of awkwardness.

So for all you dating experts out there, how do you tell if someone is just being friendly, or is genuinly interested in you.
 
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ltj559 wrote :
There is this girl in one of my classes and I am trying to figure out weather she is intrested in me or not.

For the past few weeks, she has been sitting next to me every lecture and asking me questions about my life. Books I am reading, what I did over the weekend, classes I am thinking of taking, ect. It just seems wierd that she is doing this considering I have never met her before.

Ive been wondering if this means that she likes me. If she is I would definatly ask her out. To be honest I noticed her the first day of class, but didnt think much of her because I figured she was out of my league. However if this is just her being nice, I would want to know as to avoid a whole bunch of awkwardness.

So for all you dating experts out there, how do you tell if someone is just being friendly, or is genuinly interested in you.
Until you know her better, you can't be sure. I'd suggest asking her out for a coffee to get to know her better.
 
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ltj559 wrote :
There is this girl in one of my classes and I am trying to figure out weather she is intrested in me or not.

For the past few weeks, she has been sitting next to me every lecture and asking me questions about my life. Books I am reading, what I did over the weekend, classes I am thinking of taking, ect. It just seems wierd that she is doing this considering I have never met her before.

Ive been wondering if this means that she likes me. If she is I would definatly ask her out. To be honest I noticed her the first day of class, but didnt think much of her because I figured she was out of my league. However if this is just her being nice, I would want to know as to avoid a whole bunch of awkwardness.

So for all you dating experts out there, how do you tell if someone is just being friendly, or is genuinly interested in you.
I don't think somebody would be sitting next to you for a few weeks and asking question just to be nice...but at the very least she might be looking for a study partner or somebody to share notes with. Focus on that and don't think of it as deeper than that....keep having conversation with her...eventually the 'ooh yeah my boyfriend and I used to go to that place" phrase will come out

Don't think about her as 'out of your league' that will mess your mind...be thankful a cute girl approached you, she already done half of the work FOR you and all you have to do is maintain the communication.

What's the subject btw? Maybe I can be her tutor!
 
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It might be a bit of both. You can ask her if she has a boyfriend. If yes, then think on the side of friendliness, if no think about asking her out for a coffee or lunch or something and see if there is anything more to it.
 
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One of the "techniques" I've found helpful in determining the difference between polite repartee and genuine interest is touch. While she is sitting next to you, take an opportunity to touch her in a manner that allows contact to be prolonged, but seems quite innocent. A good acceptable touch like a hand resting on her forearm, or leg to leg touch. After a minute or two, move away. Then wait to see if she reengages the touch between the two of you. Sounds cheesy, but it works well
 
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AS I was reading your post about how she acts, I can tell you for sure that it sounds like she likes you very much. She could be just a friendly type, but I kind of doubt it. Take laced's advice & ask her out for a cup of coffee & take it from there...you'll probably get the vibe over coffee whether she likes you in a bf/gf sort of way or just wants to be friends.

Good luck to you!
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It may a bit of both. Ask if she has a boyfriend, if yes then think friendly, if not think about asking her out for a coffee or lunch and see if there is more to it. If you are still not sure after a while, then just ask.
 
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I hope you've gotten enough encouragement here and now take that first step-asking her out to coffee.

It can be difficult, at times, to try and figure out where someone else is coming from. Usually asking them is the best way from driving yourself nuts about it.

Good luck here and keep us filled in-we tend to live vicariously around here.
 
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I still think don't ask about her boyfriend directly...ask her the same question she has been asking you...eventually if she has a boyfriend, it'll bound to come up.

Now...if she has a boyfriend but prefer not to talk about him, that's a red flag....do not cross, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
 
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I hate to be the Debbie Downer, but it seems like she is just being friendly. Since she approached you at random to begin with, chances are she would have asked you out already
 
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