Outside of the online dating world, where have you had success meeting other single people?


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AlynC is offline AlynC Post #1  January 3,2010, 2:44pm
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Just curious to hear about everyone's experiences in dating/meeting new people outside of eHarmony?
 
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Actual dates: nowhere.

Closest possibilites: university (missed opportunities, there), workplace (almost), and gym (tried but failed; this is still the best option for me.)
 
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I've met dates/past boyfriends at the following places:
* Co-ed recreational sports leagues
* Happy Hours
* Work (I've worked for very large companies; none of my dates have ever worked in the same department or building as I did)
* Parties
* Clubs
* Through Meetup Groups

However I've found you can meet guys anywhere (though it doesn't always lead to anything): airport, mall, walking down the street in a shopping or otherwise busy area
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School, Breadco (Panera to everyone outside StL), microbrewery. There were a couple fix ups and such. I have never actually met anyone through eHa.
 
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AlynC wrote :
Just curious to hear about everyone's experiences in dating/meeting new people outside of eHarmony?
College (twice), work (once, but also had a lot of "almosts", too) and two via online (one, back in the mid-90's through an e-mail list dedicated to a particular music group... she ended up my ex-wife. The second was via Facebook).
 
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Recently, the local casinos. Previously, at my job, he was a customer. Once or twice through friends, but never on a fix up, stopped those a long time ago. Once in a while it will be just a random meeting somewhere, in a store, on the street, at a party or something.
 
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AlynC wrote :
Just curious to hear about everyone's experiences in dating/meeting new people outside of eHarmony?
Outside of eHarmony:

I had 4 first dates from Match in early 2008. Joined in 2002.
Had 1 first date from Yahoo! Personals in mid 2008. Just tried the site for 6 months.

Meeting people in real life, not much success:
Had 1 first date in high school.
Was introduced to 3 different girls by friends. None of these resulted in anything more.
 
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I have met men at places I volunteer, at community college, at organizations that I belong to of people with similar interests, attending work parties with a girl friend who didn't want to take a date but didn't want to go alone, through friends and friends of friends. When I worked, I met most of my dates either at the same large company or when I was working.

My most recent dating experience was met through Yahoo Personals-and I find they have a wider group of available matches than the eHarmony ones in my area..

Last night I met a man when I went out to listen to a friends band (he was there for the same reason-had a friend in the band.) It was an enjoyable, spontaneous evening and I enjoyed myself. We exchanged phone numbers and I may call him or he may call me but for last night, we both had a good time dancing.

I think you have to allow yourself to be open to meeting people, NOT look at every potential introduction as 'maybe the one' but just as an occasion to be social. Same way as I look at potential matches from dating services.
 
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I have had very few dates originate from meetings other than online. Of the ones I've had:

One was at a karaoke bar.
One was at the ice skating rink where my daughter took lessons.
One was from work (NOT recommended).
One was from a social/sports club.
One was at our high school class reunion (never knew him in high school)
One was a guy who was at the company Christmas party for my brothers' business.

In 7+ years of dating, that's it outside of guys I've met on online dating sites. Of those sites, I had success years ago on a local site that no longer exists, and after that I had the most success on match.com. I've met a total of 3 guys in 19 months on eHarmony.
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Haven't had any dates outside EH. An acquaintance was going to introduce me to somebody before, but my future is a bit uncertain because of relocation, so I declined.

People in my age group are looking for serious/marriage as end result and I know I can't give that...unless they are willing to move in and out of the country with me.
 
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