grlnxtdr is offline grlnxtdr Post #61  January 7,2010, 5:09pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Agree.

Once you get into a relationship, roles solidify.

Also, once you get into a relationship, you deserve the treatment you earn.

I refute the premise that people do more in an early dating stage; it should be the reverse.
Wow,,,where are you guys in real life? I always get the one's that are jerks. I once had a guy suggest we leave the restaurant without paying...as in no one pays, not me, not him...uh yeah...bad manners in my book, he didn't get a second date.

So maybe I am so jaded that what the poster posted was a dream date to me...or she could just go out with him again and see if there is a pattern.
 
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Not opening the door for you...not cool, especially for first date. Taking a long time to order dinner - not a problem if the conversation was going well. Picking up his Blackberry....well, when I was working I had a phone attached to my hip 24/7/365 because I supervised people all three shifts...had no choice. BUT, I would never get involved in some long, ridiculous conversation. If there was an issue I would deal with it and hang up. If it was non-sense I would tell the person not to ever call me with non-sense and to go back to work. Sending an e-mail, totally unacceptable. Standing in the freezing cold weather chatting...rude. Not walking you to your car UNACCEPTABLE!!! I guess after thinking about it - I think he's a loser...move on.
 
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melman wrote :
And I pretty much disagree with everything you have written. You see it as charming; I see it as grandfatherly and clingy. You have written that you don't get many second dates, so this behavior apparently isn't earning you any bonus points. Maybe you should ask about doing these things, before you actually do them.
I do not see a guy walking me to my car or checking that I got home OK being grandfatherly or clingy. When there is more than one date whom I equally like, I will pick one(s) who did all of the above.
 
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Would anybody like to walk me to my car?
 
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Whether a first date goes well or not, I always ask the woman if I may escort her to her car. Most women will accept that offer, since it's safer than walking alone in the dark. This guy was no gentleman.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Would anybody like to walk me to my car?
Or open the door for you?
Or buy dinner for you?

IMHO etiquette can vary tremendously based on the type of person(s) dating. Some like / expect that kind of treatment and will act as a lady. Fine. What irks me is so many women today go so far in declaring how "independent" they are, yet they still EXPECT all the special treatment. If you want to be independent, ACT independent and expect nothing. All this being said, I do open / hold the door for the PERSON behind me. I still do ( being very independent she often gives me the "grrr") pull the chair out for Laura.

Enjoying special treatment is one thing. In my humble opinion, EXPECTING it (calling those who do not give it jerks) is arrogant, pompous and totally unacceptable by me.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Careless might I suggest that you date most any of the guys on these Advice boards to find out how you should be treated on a first date. Well actually any date.
It has been my observation that how a date treats those "lesser" to them (waiter/waitress/clerk/etc) is an indication of how they will eventually treat you. Treat (or try to ) EVERYONE nice ALWAYS, period.

grlnxtdr wrote :
I got a lot of Miss Manners classes to catch up on, but I still have great qualities to bring to the table. Example, I sometimes talk with my mouth full of food...I know some people are thinking OMG! I would never take that girl out again,,,but
To digress a tiny bit from my "as you always act", but not really, in many situations good manners are an absolute must. One indiscretion, S happens. A couple times in same night would have me worried. Manners (contrary to "Pretty Woman" are NOT learned quickly. They are a lifestyle and say a lot of how one will be. As for the last word quoted, in my house "but"'s get spanked..

D_Lion wrote :
Agree.

Once you get into a relationship, roles solidify.

Also, once you get into a relationship, you deserve the treatment you earn.

I refute the premise that people do more in an early dating stage; it should be the reverse.
Kind of what I said.



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Just because you think something should be a certain does not mean it is. People are more inclined to be on their best behavior with new situations (dating, jobs, etc.).
However most people are not good actors, and poor acting always looks like crep.
 
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Enjoying special treatment is one thing. In my humble opinion, EXPECTING it (calling those who do not give it jerks) is arrogant, pompous and totally unacceptable by me.

Yep.
 
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