Feast or famine when dating. How do you handle the feasts?

My approach for dealing with "feasts"

my $.02

1. No date is to know about the other dates- I don't want to know about the other guys that my date may be seeing, I assume they don't want to know about the other women I am seeing.

2. You have not committed until you have committed- Until either you or your date raises the exclusivity issue, you have license to date other people with impunity. Anyone who demands exclusivity up front is asking to much from someone they just met.

3. Once you have committed, you have committed- This should go without saying but... Agreeing to exclusivity means that you agree to shut down your other potentials immediately. Be forthright and unambiguous, it's cruel to waste someone's time by keeping any false hope alive. If you're unwilling to do this then you should not commit.

A friend once pointed that when single, it always felt that it was a feast or famine situation. Either single with no prospects or multiple prospects all at the same time. I know some say that we subconsciously project a more positive vibe when we are in initial stages of a relationship, and therefore appear more appealing and approachable, but I've noticed this with women initiating online dating contact and friends setting me up as well.

Recently I've had two friends work their magic. In the process of talking/1st date with one girl, when the other girl contacts me out of the blue. I had been trying to remain neutral when my friend brought up #2 since I wanted to see how things worked out with #1 first. At this point the plan is to not completely blow off #2 in case #1 doesn't work out. Based on what I know of both now, I am not head over heels over either but both have positive attributes that I am interested in.

How have you handled these situations in the past?

You'd really say that? That makes no sense at all.

No one wants to be second choice. I can't see any woman responding well to that at all.

Remain non-commital with either until you make your choice then go with it.

My approach for dealing with "feasts"

my $.02

1. No date is to know about the other dates- I don't want to know about the other guys that my date may be seeing, I assume they don't want to know about the other women I am seeing.

2. You have not committed until you have committed- Until either you or your date raises the exclusivity issue, you have license to date other people with impunity. Anyone who demands exclusivity up front is asking to much from someone they just met.

3. Once you have committed, you have committed- This should go without saying but... Agreeing to exclusivity means that you agree to shut down your other potentials immediately. Be forthright and unambiguous, it's cruel to waste someone's time by keeping any false hope alive. If you're unwilling to do this then you should not commit.

My approach for dealing with "feasts"

my $.02

1. No date is to know about the other dates- I don't want to know about the other guys that my date may be seeing, I assume they don't want to know about the other women I am seeing.

2. You have not committed until you have committed- Until either you or your date raises the exclusivity issue, you have license to date other people with impunity. Anyone who demands exclusivity up front is asking to much from someone they just met.

3. Once you have committed, you have committed- This should go without saying but... Agreeing to exclusivity means that you agree to shut down your other potentials immediately. Be forthright and unambiguous, it's cruel to waste someone's time by keeping any false hope alive. If you're unwilling to do this then you should not commit.

My approach for dealing with "feasts"

my $.02

1. No date is to know about the other dates- I don't want to know about the other guys that my date may be seeing, I assume they don't want to know about the other women I am seeing.

2. You have not committed until you have committed- Until either you or your date raises the exclusivity issue, you have license to date other people with impunity. Anyone who demands exclusivity up front is asking to much from someone they just met.

3. Once you have committed, you have committed- This should go without saying but... Agreeing to exclusivity means that you agree to shut down your other potentials immediately. Be forthright and unambiguous, it's cruel to waste someone's time by keeping any false hope alive. If you're unwilling to do this then you should not commit.