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GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #1  January 2,2010, 8:34pm
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I was emailing a guy back and forth and we were getting along well. He asked me if I texted or aim and I wrote back that I didn't, but here's my number if you'd like to talk on the phone. He then said that that sounded good and he would now have to think of clever things to say. Two days go by and he does not call me. Then, on the 3rd day, he sends me another email asking me how I am doing? (no reference to the fact that he didn't call) I just wrote back that I'm good and I'm looking forward to talking with him on the phone. He writes back that he is too and when is a good time to call me. I wrote that I would be around the next day in the afternoon before I went out (it was new year's eve). Again, no call. Then, on new year's day, he emails me again and writes that he was busy the day before but he will give me a call this weekend. I haven't heard from him yet and tomorrow's sunday and given his history, I'm not expecting a phone call. So my question is: what's up with this guy? Is he just shy? I don't get it.
 
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How do you know you were "getting along well" through email? You don't really know anything.

And why do you need to talk on the phone?

If you want to meet, then meet. In a safe public place and without giving out any personal information. Stop guessing about things you can't possibly know.
 
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He is probably shy or just very nervous about talking on the phone. Since he keeps getting back to you at least by e-mail it seems like he's still interested.

Next e-mail suggest a casual meeting and see if he goes for that.

If he doesn't, he may have just been looking for a text/e-mail pal and you're better off just moving on unless that's what you want, too.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #4  January 2,2010, 9:01pm

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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
He is probably shy or just very nervous about talking on the phone. Since he keeps getting back to you at least by e-mail it seems like he's still interested.
Yep. Same here. Plus I am less and less a phone person than I used to be...at the most I'll use it to ask for directions or to coordinate a place, or to let the person know I'm gonna be late, etc...but I only have a very select few that I can talk for hours on the phone.

First time calls also are always nerve wrecking.
 
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CAnative is offline CAnative Post #5  January 2,2010, 9:03pm
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Since his reply to you when you gave him your phone number was " he would now have to think of clever things to say" it sounds like he might be nervous about calling. With text and IM he can take time to think about his answer where the phone is immediate. He is emailing and texting and I am sure he will call when he feels comfortable. I would not push for the phone call. I do not know if the phone number you gave him was for a prepaid cell or your own cell but if for some reason this does not work out or this match is not who he says he is he can get alot of info online re you. I usually take their number and call blocked. If your phone does not have this option all you have to do is dial *67 the area code and the number and it will show restricted just to be safe.
 
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LMinMN is offline LMinMN Post #6  January 2,2010, 9:06pm
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There is know way to tell you whats up.. I would continue my search and interact with other possibles. Until he proves otherwise, I would chalk him up to an aquaintance. Communication is a two way street and if its not fullfilling what will the future hold? If you find someone else of interest, his loss.
 
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Yeah, I'm thinking he's just too nervous. Wouldn't doubt it if he actually picked up the phone, started dialing, then hung up. I've done it! But I also have the mentality of "JUST DO IT!", so I typically dial and think on what to say as I go. If we click, then we click. If we don't, then keep it short.

I remember one time I talked to one of my matches from eHarmony. This lady apparently was the type that wanted 4 or 5 hours on the phone with me. Why? We would literally be on the phone for a full minute and have nothing to say, while she's laughing at some TV show. Why insist on calling every day? It's invasive.

But I digress. I hope he calls, OP. Hopefully he'll ask you out on the third call or something.
 
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dietpepsi is offline dietpepsi Post #8  January 2,2010, 9:20pm
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Sounds flaky and just stringing you along.
 
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GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #9  January 2,2010, 9:42pm
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melman wrote :
How do you know you were "getting along well" through email? You don't really know anything.

And why do you need to talk on the phone?

If you want to meet, then meet. In a safe public place and without giving out any personal information. Stop guessing about things you can't possibly know.
We were getting along well because we had a fun, flirty banter going on. I don't need to talk on the phone, he was the one who asked if i text or aim. I don't see the point of going of one form of writing to another, and so I just gave him my #. I have met up with guys that I've never spoken with on the phone. I don't really have a preference. Just don't know why he keeps emailing me to say that he'll call and then doesn't.
 
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Lookingandlooking is offline Lookingandlooking Post #10  January 2,2010, 10:15pm
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He could have a speech impediment...I'm not trying to be funny.
 
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