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Largely ignored in high school and overshadowed by their cooler classmates, nerds have something special to offer in the dating world. Namely, they are interesting, quirky and will treat you like gold.
- May 17th, 2008, 01:25 am
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This article was disappointing. It was filled with both incorrect and painfully bad stereotypes (on both sides), not to mention being misleading. There are just as many "nerd" jerks as there are nice guys in that category. :/
- May 17th, 2008, 05:30 am
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I think we all know, that no matter what walk of life we may find ourselves, there are both wonderful and not-so-wonderful folks in each segment.
- May 17th, 2008, 06:10 am
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Nice sexist article
- May 17th, 2008, 08:05 am
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I think the point of this article was to encourage us gals (and even guys!) to take a second look at some matches that we perhaps stereotyped into a group and passed them by. (Although this article did some backhanded bashing of nerds at the same time!) From my experience as a "nerdette", these guys may be a little introverted and socially awkward, but can make fascinating conversation, be extremely creative, terrific problem solvers, funny and a little twisted. Furthermore, they're still men and can appreciate a woman in 4" heels! But these guys probably would be really turned on if you show that you have a mind, intelligence, and can run mentally with them. Isn't that what many women want? Or would they want that guy who only cares how good you look as arm candy?



I'm happily dating a self-described "nerd" from E-H and I think we both realize that it's challenging to find the "whole package" in this society. If you can connect beyond the surface-level criteria and look for those deeper "must have/ can't stand" attributes, if you take a second look at many of the matches you closed so quickly, you might find some terrific guys or gals that could more than fulfill your needs in a relationship.
- May 17th, 2008, 08:21 am
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Shelby wrote :

I think the point of this article was to encourage us gals (and even guys!) to take a second look at some matches that we perhaps stereotyped into a group and passed them by. (Although this article did some backhanded bashing of nerds at the same time!)
Nope. The article was a crock. I mean, why should anyone automatically assume that a woman is going to be able to give a guy help in the fashion department just because she's a woman?

I'm surprised eHarmony would even consider such drivel since it's supposed to be a site that champions people to look past stereotypes. I hope they remove this nonsense.
- May 17th, 2008, 11:03 am
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I am a nerd myself and agree with most of those, but, the world will not change, the girls want to go out with these jacka??es and don't want to go with someone who will like them for who they are. Because they are not their 'type'. The tough guys or popular guys will use them and then dump 'em when a new model comes along, and then these girls keep getting hurt by these tough guys and they wonder why they were hurt? Meanwhile, there were a few other guys who would have been loyal to them forever, but, they put them aside for a buff, popular looking..... looser!
- May 17th, 2008, 12:04 pm
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Horrible, stereotype-ridden article.



FWIW, I actively look for the nerds, particularly the academic variety. Nothing sexier than a man with intelligence!
- May 17th, 2008, 12:31 pm
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Wow such vitriolic hate of an article. I didn't think it was all that bad. But then I'm a nerd. Not of the highest magnitude mind you but a nerd none the less. I don't have glasses and I don't wear a pocket protector. Yet I can discuss science theories of Star Trek all day long and hold my own. I don't think I have a fashion problem other then my lack of cash to buy new clothes. I was overlooked, made fun of and cast aside by every woman I knew growing up. I was also afraid to ask any woman out growing up. Every one else was in the cool crowd and made fun of me and beat me up. Through all of that I have crafted a greater appreciation for women and the female body. I would like to think that I am kinder and more appreciative of woman. I never treat them like they where put on this earth solely to please men (I've lived with that type of person before). I would like to think that there where some truths in that article and that it wasn't all just drivel or stereotypical. I'm not saying it Pulitzer worthy by any means of course. I just wish there was a woman out there who would snatch me up for the nerdthat I am.

- May 17th, 2008, 12:37 pm
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Wow such hate of an article. I didn't think it was all that bad. But then I'm a nerd. Not of the highest magnitude mind you but a nerd none the less. I don't have glasses and I don't wear a pocket protector. Yet I can discuss science theories of Star Trek all day long and hold my own. I don't think I have a fashion problem other then my lack of cash to buy new clothes. I was overlooked, made fun of and cast aside by every woman I knew growing up. I was also afraid to ask any woman out growing up. Every one else was in the cool crowd and made fun of me and beat me up. Through all of that I have crafted a greater appreciation for women and the female body. I would like to think that I am kinder and more appreciative of woman. I never treat them like they where put on this earth solely to please men (I've lived with that type of person before). I would like to think that there where some truths in that article and that it wasn't all just drivel or stereotypical. I'm not saying it is prize worthy by any means of course. I just wish there was a woman out there who would snatch me up for the nerdthat I am.

- May 17th, 2008, 12:40 pm
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