How long before... The Talk or Walk?

For those of you who believe that you need to have "The Talk" before you are considered exclusive in a relationship, how long before it's long enough?

I've broken off a relationship with a guy that after two months he was still not ready to have "the talk." Now, this is two months of continuous communications, seeing each other at least 2-3 times per week. He thought it was too fast... I thought, too slow... so, since I do not believe in right or wrong, I just felt it was a matter of compatibility and let him go.

I personally look for the guy to ask the question. I might start the conversation, and/or hint that I am interested, but I believe the guy should ask once he is ready. I am not one for pushing a guy or pressuring him into something he is not ready for.

So, for the guys... how long do you think is long enough before you'll have the talk...

for the girls... how long do you give him before you expect it to become exlusive or walk? or, just start getting anxious without walking?

Obviously there is no "one" answer... people have become exclusive off of the first date based on other conversations on this board. I'm just thinking what are experiences that you've had.

Thoughts?

so, the question doesn't have to do with the guy that has already been let go of... he is gone.

I'm just thinking what people normally do. First, there is no sex without a committed relationship. It's just not me.

But, what if you just click with a person in a relatively short period of time (let's say less than a month). Is it okay to hint at exclusivity? Or, do you just wait?

Four weeks, six days, 14 hours, 32 minutes and 56 seconds.

For me, it's more about the quality of time spent than the quantity. I've had men that I dated casually and never expected the talk because they simply didn't seem to have the willingness or ability to initiate any more than what was going on. I've had others that I knew after 2 dates were someone I wanted to focus on without the distraction of social dating.

I will say that generally, if a man expects physical intimacy before he's initiated a talk regarding his view of the relationship and my place in his life, I'm pretty much out of there. Or, if I stay, I treat is as exactly what it is...which is a sexual relationship and nothing more. People seem to think that women are the only ones who develop unspoken expectations when sex is involved without commitment. I'm here to tell you - it just ain't so.

I would worry if I saw a woman 2-3 times a week over a month and she wasn't interested in being exclusive.