Pros and cons of online dating?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  December 31,2009, 1:33pm
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What positive things do do you think that finding a mate online offers, vs. "out in the wild"?

What do you see as the negative side of online dating?

Anything YOU can do to "eliminate the negative" -- or at least make it work in your favor?
 
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In my adult life, I have only gone on dates from online dating websites. So I have a hard time seeing the cons as I can't compare it to actually meeting women out and about. I will say that I think the tools provided do make things a lot easier. There are a lot of lonely people in this world who are simply just looking to meet that one person that accepts them for who they are. The online dating revolutions as given way for people to find true matches. If there is a negative side it is the fact that when you log on to a dating site everyone is looking for a date and people might be more rash in their decisions which can lead to hurt feelings, but the same thing can happen with a bunch of drunk lonely people down at the club.

The only think that would make online dating more positive is if the majority opinion was that it was okay. My dad asked me where I met my current girlfriend and when I said "eHarmony" he said "I am surprised, she is a really nice looking girl". He stuck his foot in his mouth on that one though, as he met my stepmom online (not a dating site though) and her and I both gave him a hard time about it but seriously there tends to me a negative energy in some peoples minds when it comes to online dating sites.
 
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I view it relatively positively.

I wish that people were a little less hesitant about it though.

I know that not everyone is a bar person but I don't view meeting someone online & going to a bar or a restaurant as being any different than speaking with that person in a bar or a restaurant randomly. I just happen to know that they are available this way.

Not everyone uses the sites in the same way that I do but I wish that they would.
 
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The biggest pro is that you can meet people you otherwise never would have met, just because your paths would not have crossed in real life.

Another pro is that you can make initial contact with someone even if you are too shy to approach people in real life.

I don't see a real con, as long as you realize there's no guarantee you'll meet your soulmate online and that there are other ways of meeting people.

As for the reactions of others, that just shows how behind the times they are. It's pretty common to find people who met their partner online, and if someone else has an issue with that, it's their problem, not ours.
 
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What positive things do do you think that finding a mate online offers, vs. "out in the wild"?

Exposure to people I would not be meeting at all otherwsie.


What do you see as the negative side of online dating?

They are in odd places far away - a mile isn't a mile to eHahaha!


Anything YOU can do to "eliminate the negative" -- or at least make it work in your favor?

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pro - meet a lot of very nice people. whether you establish a relationship or not, there is always an experience to remember.

con - you can also meet creepy people who mis-represent themselves. now, I guess that is an experience too, but not one that I would want to have again :-(.
 
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Pro: It can work quite nicely if you are a very skillful profile writer (provided you also look decent by majority standard). You can also reach potential dates that you wouldn't have met otherwise.

Cons: It's very one dimensional and often times you only have ONE chance of making the first impression...and often times you have to be a skillful profile writer.

Those are the ones I could think of right now.

Things I might do differently:
1. Ask trusted people to help rewrite my profile.
2. Face transplant
3. Body transplant (for chiseled chest, 6 pack abs, extra two inches, etc)
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The biggest pro is that you can meet people you otherwise never would have met, just because your paths would not have crossed in real life.
This is so true. What are the chances I would have met my girlfriend if it had not been for eHarmony. 1 in a Billion probably.
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PY_2 wrote :
Pro: It can work quite nicely if you are a very skillful profile writer (provided you also look decent by majority standard).

I'm suprised to see this. I think women are often getting a fealing of some investment in a man from his online communication, and are thus willing to meet and spend an evening with him.

Thus, she has hours of leisurely communication after all the electronic communication, for him to grow on her.

If you approach a strange woman in person, she will judge your appearance instantly, and that is surely more of her decision in that mode.
 
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stevex wrote :
This is so true. What are the chances I would have met my girlfriend girlfriend if it had not been for eHarmony. 1 in a Billion probably.
Well a chance of meeting two women as your girlfriend is more like one in nine billion!
 
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