lostatsea is offline lostatsea Post #1  December 30,2009, 7:59am
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Before I get started, I am going to preface it by saying I know that I am going to take some heat from the guys on this.

Met this guy for coffee, he is oh so HOT, physically speaking, but dumb as a box of hair. I know that I could not have a relationship with this guy because he is intellectually not my type. I am tempted, however, to pull a "guy" move and just have sex w/him. I am seeking men with relationship potential but a girl has her needs too!!

There is no real question here, but just want to hear your thoughts
 
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Oh the temptations of a hott man!
Depending on my length of time without a steady boyfiend (or date for that matter) I have delved into this. It can be fun, but you run the risks. If he is so hott, how many women does/has he sleep with? Dumb as a box of hair... is he smart enough to use protection?

There is something for actually doing "it" vs, just having some fun with yourself. I believe Dr. Oz (yeah I do watch it once in a great while) said that there is a hormone we release when with another person in that way. It makes us healthier and happier.

I'd say go for it if you feel safe.
 
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lostatsea wrote :
dumb as a box of hair.
My thoughts? I've never heard this /\ before and almost spit my coffee out on the keyboard. Oh well, not my keyboard to ruin.

I will definitely use this expression in future! Good luck with the rest of your post!
 
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Uhhm I have learned that looks are not everything. I would advise to NOT have sex with him you don't want to get a disease. This is the electronic age and there are really great toys out there to satisfy your needs.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
Oh the temptations of a hott man!
Depending on my length of time without a steady boyfiend (or date for that matter) I have delved into this. It can be fun, but you run the risks. If he is so hott, how many women does/has he sleep with? Dumb as a box of hair... is he smart enough to use protection?

There is something for actually doing "it" vs, just having some fun with yourself. I believe Dr. Oz (yeah I do watch it once in a great while) said that there is a hormone we release when with another person in that way. It makes us healthier and happier.

I'd say go for it if you feel safe.
Oh, it has been a while without a steady boyfriend (2years) and having fun all by myself works but it oh so much better with a man

He may be dumb as a box of hair but I'm not...I'm all about being safe.
 
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Just because he is "dumb" and "beneath you" intellectually doesn't mean that he's not a human being or that he doesn't have emotions and feelings himself. If he is mutually interested in having a "no strings" sexual liaison, then go ahead as consenting adults. But, don't make the decision unilaterally.

I don't buy the "needs" argument, though (from either men or women). There are other ways to scratch that itch if that's all you want to do. That doesn't mean that you can't choose to have sex with another person, but it is indeed a choice.
 
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neardc wrote :
Just because he is "dumb" and "beneath you" intellectually doesn't mean that he's not a human being or that he doesn't have emotions and feelings himself. If he is mutually interested in having a "no strings" sexual liaison, then go ahead as consenting adults. But, don't make the decision unilaterally.

I don't buy the "needs" argument, though (from either men or women). There are other ways to scratch that itch if that's all you want to do. That doesn't mean that you can't choose to have sex with another person, but it is indeed a choice.
Like I said, I knew I would take some heat for this one! I'm not disregarding the fact that he is human or that he doesn't have emotions or feelings. The physical attraction is mutual but do we really need to "discuss it"? I think everyone knows that you can't build anything based on lust alone.
 
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lostatsea wrote :
Before I get started, I am going to preface it by saying I know that I am going to take some heat from the guys on this.

Met this guy for coffee, he is oh so HOT, physically speaking, but dumb as a box of hair. I know that I could not have a relationship with this guy because he is intellectually not my type. I am tempted, however, to pull a "guy" move and just have sex w/him. I am seeking men with relationship potential but a girl has her needs too!!

There is no real question here, but just want to hear your thoughts
I will not give you heat for this ridiculous post...under one condition.

You say my name when you have sex with him
 
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Hey, i know some smart..boxes of hair.....yeah.

Anyways, if its something that is consensual, and you both enjoy yourselves, have at it. But do not string him along. But if he's as intellectual as you say he is, I think you'll be fine. Just make sure your on the same page.
 
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