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I work in a career that I must be aggressive naturally to be good at it, I also must remain in pretty decent physical shape. I make 6 figures a year so don't let the fact that I had my child at an early age make you think badly of me. I was married at the time in what I believed to be a good relationship. With all that being said. I do have a self confidence problem but at the same time men or boys 10 years younger than me ask me out, so I would say I'm at least an 8, but I don't want to raise another child so I turn them down. Does all this rolled up in to one person make me undesirable to men my own age or at least close to my age.If not then I must look deeper to figure out why I'm still single.
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centxlady wrote :
I have a question for the men on here. I'm 32 years old I am a single mom of a 12 year old, I've been divorced for 7 years. I work in a career that I must be aggressive naturally to be good at it, I also must remain in pretty decent physical shape. I make 6 figures a year so don't let the fact that I had my child at an early age make you think badly of me. I was married at the time in what I believed to be a good relationship. With all that being said. I do have a self confidence problem but at the same time men or boys 10 years younger than me ask me out, so I would say I'm at least an 8, but I don't want to raise another child so I turn them down. Does all this rolled up in to one person make me undesirable to men my own age or at least close to my age.If not then I must look deeper to figure out why I'm still single.
The thing is, centxlady, you can't really label this in such black or white terms. What's fine with some guys wouldn't be fine with others.

I'm 10 years older then you, but I think at the time, I wouldn't have had any problems dating you. Nor would I now. Just my 2 cents worth.
 
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I don't date women with children, because that isn't matching my goals. I would say that young age of having had children is a negative, but I'm not in your scope anyway. The involvement of the father in your life may influence the willingness of some men to consider you, too.

Divorce is also a negative. I have never dated a divorced woman, either.


As you describe you job in minimal detail, it appears to pass my screen - would need to understand your schedule and aspirations to comment further.

I think discarding men 10 years younger is wise - I am sure most only want sex, and are best avoided.
 
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I am in your same boat, about the same age, successful career, and have kids...

I do not date men my age or younger. Just no interest. I have found that men that are older early 40's and I'm even dating one guy in his 50's, just have their act together a lot better. Now, what it depends on is what you are looking for. Guys your age (our age) might be looking for women younger, or not as tied down (with kids I mean).

I was on another online site, and kept getting guys in their mid twenties trying to talk to me. Not interested. We don't have enough in common, they have not been married, do not have kids, do not have enough life experience, just not in the same place in life that I am... not interested. You just need to understand your own priorities and put it out there. Also, I use EH amd match. That worked really well for me.

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Thanks everyone for there input. It helps to understand what others think.
As to my schedule I work 24 hour shifts and then I'm off for 48 hours or that is what my schedule is suppose to be....sometimes I work 36 or 48 hours at a time then I'm usually off for 24 or 36 hours. With my job I work mainly with men and in general they are usually my closest friends. So with all that and the things listed above, I just wonder if I have made myself unapproachable.
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What exactly do you do?

I have historically closed matches with shift work (but really for the poverty wage associated with the specific occupation.)

That you have time off, and are furthering your education, is a positive factor.

As for "working 36 or 48 hours at a time," this is beyond the physical capacity of most people, or often the law.

Assuming you are not napping on the job, I would distrust this is a profile or communication from a match.
 
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centxlady wrote :
I have a question for the men on here. I'm 32 years old I am a single mom of a 12 year old, I've been divorced for 7 years. I work in a career that I must be aggressive naturally to be good at it, I also must remain in pretty decent physical shape. I make 6 figures a year so don't let the fact that I had my child at an early age make you think badly of me. I was married at the time in what I believed to be a good relationship. With all that being said. I do have a self confidence problem but at the same time men or boys 10 years younger than me ask me out, so I would say I'm at least an 8, but I don't want to raise another child so I turn them down. Does all this rolled up in to one person make me undesirable to men my own age or at least close to my age.If not then I must look deeper to figure out why I'm still single.
It's unavoidable that the more delimitations you have for those you will date the fewer people will make it through your filtering process. From what you wrote you are looking for men somewhere around the age of 32 who are willing to be with a woman who has a child but who do not want to have any more children. These filtering criteria will cut down on the size of your potential dating pool....but if these things are important to you then that's what you need to look for. A likely group might be men around your age who also have a child and so have satisfied their desire to have any children.
 
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JayJay,

It's not that I don't want more children I physically can't have any more this is the reason I had my son at a young age I was told by my doctor have a child young or you won't ever. So at the age of 25 I had to have a hysterectomy.

I am willing and have dated men 7 years older then me but its not the child that I have that causes the problems most men have issues with my job and my coworkers.
 
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