shoopthedoop is offline shoopthedoop Post #1  December 29,2009, 6:05pm
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I had a fortuitous meeting today with someone who was interested in me many years ago.

Didn't want to hijack the "what if a woman asked you out thread", but this was a total case of missed signals back in the day. I appear to have a second chance many years later.

The woman was part of my larger circle of friends about 18 years ago in university. She was dating someone from the group up to the summer before our last year. I was always friendly with her and there was definitely some missed signals, most memorable was her sitting on my lap all night at a bbq. (OK, that was a very clear signal but I was having a good time with my buddies. Early 20s - bad priorities. )

We kept in touch a little bit after university. But I went away to grad school and so did she. Drifted apart... She fell out of touch with most of the people in our circle of our friends. I moved back about three years ago and have reconnected with most of the group. Not sure when she moved back, but I don't know if she's in touch with any of the old group.

Today at lunch I saw her at the grocery store. She was in line in front of me. I waved ... she took a second to recognize me. The she came over and gave me a big hug (a little unexpected). Got her card and sent her an email suggesting lunch at some point in the new year.

From the look of her facebook pics she's single. Didn't think to look for a wedding ring...

Anyone had success with a reunion like this? Hints or tips?
 
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Have never had this experience so this is just opinion and speculation.

I would view this both from the number of years that have passed and also the ages from then to now. I think that this is a totally new person coming into you dating field. It is just that you know each others names
 
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Not personally, but I had a coworker marry a man from a high school reunion (she is close to 50.)

Anything can work. And something in common is all you need to say "hi."
 
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A couple of years ago when I signed up on facebook, I reconnected with a guy I kind of liked who had some mutual friends back in our university days. In my case, we hadn't spent all that much time together because he had already graduated by then and lived in a different town, but he was friends with one of my roommates. There was a mutual interest at the time, but timing and distance prevented anything from developing.

When I stumbled on him on Facebook (we have mutual friends) we spent some time getting to know each other. What I would say to you is that in 18 years, both of you have changed, so you really need to discover who she is now and whether she is right for you now, rather than what you felt at the time.

Still, if you are at all interested, I think you're taking the right approach. Get together with her for lunch (presuming she accepts). Catch up. Spend some time getting to know her. If there'd mutual interest in exploring things on a romantic level, go for it, as you would with anyone else. If you find out she's in a relationship, you've spent some time catching up with an old friend - who may know other single women
 
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peg099 wrote :
Still, if you are at all interested, I think you're taking the right approach. Get together with her for lunch (presuming she accepts). Catch up. Spend some time getting to know her. If there'd mutual interest in exploring things on a romantic level, go for it, as you would with anyone else. If you find out she's in a relationship, you've spent some time catching up with an old friend - who may know other single women
Exactly the way I'm approaching it.

I am a little interested to know why she lost touch with the bigger group as well.
 
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My best friend is a single Dad raising his daughter. He re - connected with a old flame from 15 years ago. Last summer when he was so obviously glowing with happiness I simply said. When you get married to her I am going to be your best man.
Just think of it as back then they were the right person at the wrong time. Now the time is right!!
 
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Couldn't tell you what to do or what to expect......All I want to say, was good luck, I hope that it works out for you.

Get together, buy her drinks, see what has happened and find out what is been going on with her for the last how many years...I got my second chance, but it wasn't through an old high school chum...so again, keep us up-to-date on what goes on....
 
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hogrally wrote :
Just think of it as back then they were the right person at the wrong time. Now the time is right!!
There's definitely that possibility. Not going to rush it though. At least until we arrange the lunch....
 
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Does she have a relationship status listed on Facebook?
 
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No status on facebook. Her pics were public.

Haven't friended her yet. I'll wait until after we meet for lunch to do that.
 
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