SweetKatieA is offline SweetKatieA Post #1  December 28,2009, 9:12pm
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After a month plus of avoiding dating for the holidays, I got back up on the horse today and went back at it. Met a guy I've been talking to for about a week, maybe more at a restaurant, had dinner, a beer then it was Monday Night Football, so it got a lil loud in there and we went to get coffee. Nice so far? Yes He was very nice, looked like Elvis a little (I SWEAR!), good conversation, good flirting, he and I have a lot in common. So, Starbucks got crowded and loud too and it was early so he suggested us seeing a movie. We were by my house so I said... sure why not. Yes, I know this was dumb, but we got along really well and I'm nieve. Whatever. We watched The Hangover which is FANTASTIC (you all should see it). He was a perfect gentleman, held my hand, put his arm around my shoulder, all stuff I was completely fine with. At the end, he kissed me. And... we made out. For a while. Very nice, then he tried to go further, and I said as nicely as I could "I don't mean to be a tease, but... ok. I'm going to be a tease". Which he seemed completely fine with. So, at the end of the date, I'm walking him to the door and this is what he said after he started laughing "OK, so I have to tell you. I read on your profile, one of you questions... 'What would you do if you found out your date brought condoms along on the first date?' and your answer was 'I would tease them about it'. So, well I did. But, they're the right kind (I have a life threatening allergy to latex, so he bought the polyurathane ones). I was like OMG! Seriously? lol. And, I just started laughing. He said, "Well, I was just being prepared, just in case, since I know you can die from the other kind". And I laughed again because honestly I didn't know what the heck to say. He kissed me and left after asking me out again.

So, I'm sitting here now wondering... should I be offended? Just laugh it off? Am I way overthinking this? I mean, I wasn't even thinking about sleeping with him.. I didn't even shave my legs for our date. Shhh... don't tell anyone. What's the deal?
 
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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope Post #2  December 28,2009, 9:22pm
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Sounds like a fun date -- yay!

I think it's possible you're overthinking it -- I've never had a guy tell me he brought condoms, but I think your allergy situation makes it different for you. I wouldn't be offended if I were you.

Good luck!
 
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Sounds like a great date.

At first I would be a little offended but then the cuteness of the situation would hit me. At least he HAD condoms. He was truly prepared just in case. Maybe it was a little TMI at the end for him to admit it, but whatever.

I might make this a running joke with him. He might be slapping himself on the forehead right now thinking "What a doofus!" But if you are still interested in seeing him, don't make a big deal about it.

Did he swivel his hips like Elvis too?
 
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EMTZ is offline EMTZ Post #4  December 28,2009, 9:42pm
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I think many guys actually do bring protection for their first dates just in case they get lucky: but they just don't mention it.

At least this guy is honest about it

As for being offended: my personal principle is: the easier I get offended, the more people I drive away, romantically or not. You can decide to dump him if you're not comfortable with that habit, but getting offended is only bad for your own mental state.
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Don't overthink it, it's funny!! Just laugh it off. It's good to be prepared, just in case! And since that was apparently a question on your profile? it shows he was paying attention, and maybe also did that to be cute.
lol about the leg shaving, been there!! too funny,
It sounds like a fun time overall!
 
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It was an odd share... but you did bring that up already in previous communication so that might be why he went there.
 
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I agree with the others... I wouldn't be offended. It was funny, and he didn't push you... backed off like a gentleman.

He was hopeful! And prepared! Both good things. The whole date sounds like it was good. Next time, though, if you're not wanting to, ahem, "do it" yet, don't let the date end at your place or his.
 
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that's cute and funny. and i wouldn't worry about the *good luck condom* that men will carry.
 
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SweetKatieA is offline SweetKatieA Post #9  December 28,2009, 10:09pm
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Thanks guys So, watching a movie at your house... is that automatically being a tease? Even if you just weren't ready for the date to end?

Also, I meant to put. I'm not a feminist, but I'm not a traditional girl either. So, we were at dinner and the check came and I always say "You don't have to pay for mine" which I really do mean, but normally guys look at me like.. ummm sure. I'm going to pay for it anyway. Which I think is nice. I guess I've gotten used to this. So, when the check came tonight, I said the same thing, to which he replied "Do you care splitting it? Christmas really thinned me out " So, cool I paid it. Then, to avoid any embaressment with the coffee, I just paid for both our coffee's at Starbucks. I mean, he drove to my house, so... I guess it was the least I could do. I dunno. I'm just being a spoiled brat.
 
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Nah.. don't be offended. It's a cute story. Good luck!

I would just enjoy his company until he either sticks around or disappears.

I have sorta come to the conclusion that men will stick around when they're tired of the excitement of new chics. So keep gauging your guy, worry about you more than him, and just enjoy the attention he's giving you. If you are in a rush and he's not, dump him and move in. Else happy flirting
 
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