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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #1  December 27,2009, 9:11pm
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In the Jabuary issue of scientific american mins magazine there were a couple of articles on love and relationships.

You can see the articles online but it is an interesting read.

One article supports my theory as I have posted before...that when relationships are founded and based on physical intimacy and sex..they tend to fail because that lust is gone asfter some period and those questions of who is this comes up.
 
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how would you define a relationship based on sex or physical intimacy? If you have sex every time you're together, if your conversation is predominantly discussing physically intimate topics... You can enjoy each other's company and expect that a big portion of the relationship will be built on having an active and satisfied sexual life as well... right? I thought this is what's primarily important to most guys. If not, what are you looking for?
 
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I would qualify it by saying that relationships based on lust tend to fail if one party wants more out of it than lust.
 
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I would qualify it by saying that relationships based on lust tend to fail if one party wants more out of it than lust.

True. If both parties are getting what they want from the relationship, then it's a solid relationship. It's when one of them isn't receiving what they want/need that the relationship falters. (and that would hold true for all relationships, from business partnerships, patient/doctor, priest/parishioner, teacher, student, customer/retail, friendships, to the most intimate)
 
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Agreed. In layman's terms you can say that, "You're going to spend a lot more time out of the bedroom than you will spend in the bedroom so you better have something else in common."
 
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Agreed. In layman's terms you can say that, "You're going to spend a lot more time out of the bedroom than you will spend in the bedroom so you better have something else in common."
That is a good way to put it.
 
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You don't have to only believe what is in the latest Scientific American on this subject. Pick up most any psychology book dealing with the subject of relationships or ask any marital / family counselor and you will get the same answer.
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
In the Jabuary issue of scientific american mins magazine there were a couple of articles on love and relationships.

You can see the articles online but it is an interesting read.

One article supports my theory as I have posted before...that when relationships are founded and based on physical intimacy and sex..they tend to fail because that lust is gone asfter some period and those questions of who is this comes up.
Some links would be wonderful.

Wouldn't it be reasonable to say that any one dimensional relationship would be doomed to failure?
 
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NYCpigeon wrote :
Agreed. In layman's terms you can say that, "You're going to spend a lot more time out of the bedroom than you will spend in the bedroom so you better have something else in common."

Couldn't have said it better. Very true!
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Some links would be wonderful.

Wouldn't it be reasonable to say that any one dimensional relationship would be doomed to failure?
Very nicely put! That is an excellent observation.
 
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