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jussmile is offline jussmile Post #1  December 26,2009, 3:10pm
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I am new to online dating... I know some people have done it for years, and it's second nature. But, let's say you do meet someone you really like, and you think it's heading towards long-term, how do you introduce this new guy/girl to your friends? Do you just say, oh, yeah, we met online. We met through EH?

If so, what is the reaction?

I went with a guy (6th or 7th date), to a get together with a number of friends he went to school with... school was playing in a football game against a major rival. We hadn't discussed it beforehand... he introduced me by name (not gf or anything like that because we had not had "the talk"), and the evening progressed really well. I was getting along with his buddies and their wives/gfs and no issues. He was very affectionate, rubbing my arms, leaning over kissing me on the cheek, that kind of stuff... he seemed very proud of me, that is for sure. Now, it could be that he was portraying me as "arm candy" which is fine, but it appeared that it was more than that.

Well, anyway, during the course of the evening, his buddy asked him where we met !! I looked at him, he looked at me, I wasn't sure what to say. Neither of us are experienced long-term online dating sorts, and the topic was a little embarassing. But, he was stuck and just came out and said it!! His friend seemed a little shocked and just said, ok...

I wasnt' and am not sure what to do about this. What do others say, do when the question is asked?
 
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I'd say that it's something that needs to be decided between the two of you.

I, however, plan on asserting that I've bought a girlfriend for $60. Best deal ever.
 
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I think his friend's reaction may have had to do with the fact that that he didn't know is friend was online.

Although based on the age in your profile, I'm sure a bunch of his other friends are probably online too (unless he's considerably younger than you).
 
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I've never understood why it's embarrassing to say you met online, or why anyone should be shocked to hear it these days.

If there's still a stigma to meeting online, the only way to dispel it is for people to meet actual couples who have met online and see that they aren't freaks and axe murderers in disguise.

I have no problem telling people, even coworkers, that I meet guys online. I think it would be far more shameful to tell them you meet guys in bars!

If you really, truly, have a hang-up about telling people how you met, you can tell them you met at whereever your first date was since that is a truthful (though incomplete) answer. Though they might think it odd that you just happened to meet at a restaurant!
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
I think his friend's reaction may have had to do with the fact that that he didn't know is friend was online.

Although based on the age in your profile, I'm sure a bunch of his other friends are probably online too (unless he's considerably younger than you).
A lot of my friends don't know I'm online either... it is a little embarassing to me, although it probably shouldn't be. Guess I'm just more old-fashioned that way.

Also, most of the guys I date are older mid to late 40's and professional (however you want to define that). So, not sure if that has anything to do with it either.
 
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MagicalTrev wrote :
I'd say that it's something that needs to be decided between the two of you.

I, however, plan on asserting that I've bought a girlfriend for $60. Best deal ever.
I agree that it has to be agreed upon before hand.
Get your stories straight if you are going to fib and say you met at ohhh I don't know...a HOG rally :-).
 
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nah, just "we met on internet" ... I use to care about such, until one date just blurted it out amongst a group of friends ... it was so funny ... then again she was kinda weird; where else would I have found he. Don’t be so precious ... it isn't as if anyone else cares one iota
 
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Yes, I would say we met online, I see no shame in that.
 
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jussmile wrote :
Do you just say, oh, yeah, we met online.
"Oh, yeah!!!"

 
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jussmile wrote :
A lot of my friends don't know I'm online either... it is a little embarassing to me, although it probably shouldn't be. Guess I'm just more old-fashioned that way.

Also, most of the guys I date are older mid to late 40's and professional (however you want to define that). So, not sure if that has anything to do with it either.
There is no reason to be embarrassed, if you are happy with the results, your friends should be happy for you. I'll bet if you talked to your friends one on one and asked if any of them have done it, you would be amazed at the answer. I'm older than you, but all of my friends have done it. All of them!

I would hazard a guess that his friends are on-line too, but I don't think men discuss it as freely as women.
 
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