What's your definition of a "Player"

The word is thrown around a lot. Is this really the same as a "womanizer"?

What's your interpretation?

Player
Someone, male or female, who messes with people for their own gain whatever it is they feel they are gaining, with no thought to the damage they may be causing the other participants.

Somehow, I see the word as being interchangeable with sociopath in a lot of ways.

Womanizer - more of an upfront person as in I am seeing lots of women and like it. No hard feelings if you don't want to join in the parade lol.

I see the two as being nowhere near the same thing. I interpret player to be a negative term used to describe a person who does not really like the opposite sex.

Womanizer, OTOH, is a guy who actually likes women, makes no secret of what he is doing, and has no hard feelings if you don't want to play.

Those are my definitions, yours may differ lol.

Lilycat

There is a difference between the two to me, I would not categorize a womanizer or a rake as you so nicely put it (have to remember that one!) as a player.

To each his or her own, but there is a big difference between someone who is trying to trick you into something as opposed to a person who clearly says "this is what I am" and allows you to make an informed choice in taking it or leaving it.

I do not see the latter as being a player at all, and the only people I see hurt in their wake are the ones who think " I will change him, I am different" and will not listen (to him) when told the straight goods.

These women hurt themselves I think. The player scenario, to me that is someone trying to make you believe you are "The One" while running a take a number system in the back room lol

My terms may be a little off, but I see a big difference in the two types of people.

Hopefully I clarified my thinking a bit there, then again it is early.....

Have a great day

Lilycat

I think I get what you are saying here Nightling, part of the difference to me is a player would use it as a strategy, where the womanizer is just like that. It's not a strategy or a game, it is who they are.

People, in general, who are just looking for a good time, and totally up front about it are wildly different than those who set out to deceive.

I know a couple of men, who I count among my friends, who are honestly like that, missing the commitment gene totally as one of them put it once, not at all interested in being with any one woman ever (quite clear about it) don't chase or pursue really, are great friends, but the chances are there will be no "serious type" relationship for them in the traditional sense (and they freely admit this) ever. I see women chasing them wildly at times, attracted by the challenge maybe, who just will not stop.

The ones that I know do care, try not to get into anything that will hurt anyone else, but sometimes there is no stopping someone......

We are all built differently, some radically so, but not all different people are out to harm and/or take advantage of someone. I will grant you that a lot are, but not all.....

Just trying to flesh out my POV a little more, it's really not easy to explain the difference to me, it is more of a visceral thing, but I am trying...... and the type of man I am trying to describe is pretty rare I guess.

Lilycat

Player
Someone, male or female, who messes with people for their own gain whatever it is they feel they are gaining, with no thought to the damage they may be causing the other participants.

Lilycat