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So, I met a guy for drinks/dinner this evening. It was HORRIBLE!

First, I wouldn't have guessed it but he lied about his age (fairly handsome and young looking). Not 1 or 2 years, not even just 5, TEN years. Holy Hormel Hash Batman!

Besides the age thing really digging into the back of my head, he wasn't that great of a date.

Didn't buy my one beer. I was sure to pay for the beer and dinner I had before he arrived myself. When he was ordering his beer he made sure to say "seperate tabs". I felt this was a sure sign he was not interested. I was wrong!

So we talked. He admitted to being in Mensa. That took some prodding because he seemed so against telling me what "group" he was in. Not a biggie, but he made it a big thing that I might have a prejudice against it. He interrupted me several times. I mean like 10 to 20, not just 3 or 4. He asked me questions multiple times. He pulled information from his immense brain and got it WRONG! (make a cheat sheet if you have a bad memory!) Overall, I was so unimpressed.

So, the lying really got to me and the rest didn't help. And he seemed to want to end things early, so I thought good, he isn't really that interested. Again, I'm WRONG!

Oh, yeah, he ateabout 3/4 of my hot fudge sundae (that I paid for). Not even ONE beer and you eat my sundae?

When I was walking back to my car (I declined his offer to walk me there), he called. And after I got home, he texts me.

I actually thought to myself, maybe I can forgive the age thing. But the rest just tired me out! I can't keep up with it.

So, I'm at home, drinking a beer, that I paid for thank you! And have to figure out a nice way to tell this guy that I'm not interested. My goodness! It's just before Christmas and I'm trying to be nice about this!

OK, so this is my rant for the evening. Hopefully.

Any suggestions?
 
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Pour yourself a stronger drink?
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
So we talked. He admitted to being in Mensa. That took some prodding because he seemed so against telling me what "group" he was in. Not a biggie, but he made it a big thing that I might have a prejudice against it. He interrupted me several times. I mean like 10 to 20, not just 3 or 4. He asked me questions multiple times. He pulled information from his immense brain and got it WRONG! (make a cheat sheet if you have a bad memory!) Overall, I was so unimpressed.
Second time I've seen Mensa mentioned on the board tonight .... very interesting.

Sorry about the crappy date. Sounds like just a plain old social retard.
 
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If you had planned a first meeting of just "a drink", you could have saved yourself a lot of aggravation. With the option of dinner if it had gone well. But when you plan a longer meeting and you can tell that it's blown up in the first 5 minutes, you're stuck.

Did you confront him at all about the age thing? If not, why not?
 
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If you had planned a first meeting of just "a drink", you could have saved yourself a lot of aggravation. With the option of dinner if it had gone well. But when you plan a longer meeting and you can tell that it's blown up in the first 5 minutes, you're stuck.

Did you confront him at all about the age thing? If not, why not?
Yeah, I should have been more on top of the age thing. I was thinking maybe the site we met through didn't require a bday, but it does.

It was just for drinks. I made sure to tell him I was eating there before he arrived. I paid before he got there so he wouldn't feel any obligation. I guess he didn't anyway!
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
So, I met a guy for drinks/dinner this evening. It was HORRIBLE!

First, I wouldn't have guessed it but he lied about his age (fairly handsome and young looking). Not 1 or 2 years, not even just 5, TEN years. Holy Hormel Hash Batman!

Besides the age thing really digging into the back of my head, he wasn't that great of a date.

..................

OK, so this is my rant for the evening. Hopefully.

Any suggestions?
I suggest you think about the way the date went from his point of view. He is probably telling friends, or hey! maybe we'll even see him post something like this soon on eHA!

Dear eHA,

I had a great date with a woman last week and don't understand what went wrong. We went for drinks, talked and the conversation really flowed. She was fascinated that I was in Mensa. We shared a sundae and I showed her I was interested by asking her questions when she was telling me about her life. We spoke on the phone right after ward and I texted her to make sure she got home alright.

I have tried to set up a second date with her, but she isn't interested. What went wrong? How could she seem so interested and then not want to go on a second date?
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I suggest you think about the way the date went from his point of view. He is probably telling friends, or hey! maybe we'll even see him post something like this soon on eHA!

Dear eHA,

I had a great date with a woman last week and don't understand what went wrong. We went for drinks, talked and the conversation really flowed. She was fascinated that I was in Mensa. We shared a sundae and I showed her I was interested by asking her questions when she was telling me about her life. I was a bit disappointed that she already ate by the time I got there, but that's ok, she seemed ok that we split the bill, so we did. We spoke on the phone right afterward and I texted her to make sure she got home alright.

I have tried to set up a second date with her, but she isn't interested. What went wrong? How could she seem so interested and then not want to go on a second date?
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MelinCali wrote :
I suggest you think about the way the date went from his point of view. He is probably telling friends, or hey! maybe we'll even see him post something like this soon on eHA!

Dear eHA,

I had a great date with a woman last week and don't understand what went wrong. We went for drinks, talked and the conversation really flowed. She was fascinated that I was in Mensa. We shared a sundae and I showed her I was interested by asking her questions when she was telling me about her life. We spoke on the phone right after ward and I texted her to make sure she got home alright.

I have tried to set up a second date with her, but she isn't interested. What went wrong? How could she seem so interested and then not want to go on a second date?
HA HA HA HA HA! Seriously, I'm laughing so hard over here. I think he may just be saying something like that!
 
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