Why do men ignore texts and phone calls?


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sthngrlc is offline sthngrlc Post #1  December 23,2009, 9:53am
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I have been dating a guy for over 2 months now. I've noticed that he doesn't text me very much anymore and he will text other people all the time. He always has his phone with him, yet when I text him, he often doesn't respond, even when a question is involved. Why do men do this? How should I handle the situation? I don't want to make him mad, but I'd really like to ignore him so he can see how it feels. The funny thing is, when I do take a while to respond, he often comments on how long I took. FRUSTRATING!
 
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Can't speak for why men do that. I don't like texting, but I do respond. But I've noticed women ignore texts.
 
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Hmmm, yes, frustrating when he complains about how long it took for you to respond. Double standard a little I would say. Do you text multiple times per day? Does he when he is in the "texting mood"?

My initial thought is if you two are cronic texters, is to wait until the end of the day before texting a reply to his 3 or 4. If he asks why, say you felt like answering everything in one text rather than killing your thumbs all day.

But really? I think it is a small thing. Save your strength for something bigger. Unless he is giving you other signs he wants to slow down or stop.

My last BF and I would call each other alot, he lives about 2 hours from me, so it was normal. One day he is complaining that I didn't pick up his call (only happened 3 times) and the next he is saying we don't have to talk everyday on the phone. MEN!
 
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Atlguy38 wrote :
Can't speak for why men do that. I don't like texting, but I do respond. But I've noticed women ignore texts.
Try again, there are people who ignore texts and others that don't. I don't know a single man or woman who will ignore a text.

To the OP, not a gender issue. Perhaps you should just ask the people that don't respond why they do it.
 
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I have been dating a guy for over 2 months now. I've noticed that he doesn't text me very much anymore and he will text other people all the time. He always has his phone with him, yet when I text him, he often doesn't respond, even when a question is involved. Why do men do this? How should I handle the situation? I don't want to make him mad, but I'd really like to ignore him so he can see how it feels. The funny thing is, when I do take a while to respond, he often comments on how long I took. FRUSTRATING!
You can either confront him
You can ignore his texts, which is what I would do. As far as I am concerned he's probably disrespecting you. Lots of times people wont respond at all because they think they dont have to. Either that or he doesnt like you that much and doesnt care if you go away.
 
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BOTH women and men do this ~ let's get that straight first of all. The reason people ignore msgs, texts, phone calls, emails, voicemails (whatever), is because they are avoiding you for some reason and no longer are interested in talking to you.

The reasons for that could be anything, but the bottom line is, they are giving you the brush off.

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I normally wait for him to send the first text of the day. I don't send a ridiculous amount of texts, maybe a couple a day. I know last month he sent and received over 3500 texts! He def doesn't mind it. I also am friends with a girl that he has asked out before and he will send her a text after I have sent him one and gotten no response back. He says he really likes me and will send me texts saying good morning, but then some of his actions don't say he likes me. He did get me a Christmas gift, a really sweet and thoughtful gift, but then we are away from each other for the holidays and he hasn't called much or anything. He seems to be a little bit of a womanizer.
 
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In response to his being done with me....then why does he call me almost every day? I'm just trying to figure out if this is a "game" he is playing by ignoring my texts and then texting me or calling me the next day.
 
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In response to his being done with me....then why does he call me almost every day? I'm just trying to figure out if this is a "game" he is playing by ignoring my texts and then texting me or calling me the next day.
Personally, I think it's a game. I just dropped a guy who was the same way. When he would email, it was something that I was supposed to respond right away to, or if I wouldn't respond, he would ask if I'm testing him or something (smart guy, I was) !!

Then, I would email him, text him, and he would go for hours, sometimes a day or two and not respond. When we were together, we had SO much fun. We enjoyed each other. IMO, the communication when we were not together, just sucked. As communication is important to me, and the signs he was giving out when we were not f2f, which was about once per week or every other, it just wasn't worth my energy. I think he had a number of women on the side, and this was just his game. I don't know for sure, but I think you make time for people that you like and you prioritize your schedule to do so. If not, they're just not that into you. I told him as much with a final goodbye !
 
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I date someone very similar. Once he became comfortable he ignored my e mails but would call me every day. I finally called him on it and said he was taking me for granted. His reaction was that of surprise. From his male POV he didn't think the e mails needed a response- after all he was calling me everyday and we were talking. He now responds. I think he got the idea that I wasn't about to put up with being brushed off, and it was important enough to him to keep me happy. Teach people the way you want to be treated.
 
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