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Look4Advice is offline Look4Advice Post #1  December 22,2009, 11:43am
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This question has probably been asked a thousand times.... But I can't find any post on it, and it's a new question to me

I met a guy from another online dating site last night. It went well. I met ~ 10 since I first joined and he's the first one I'd like to see again. So how do I make it happen now? He text me a few minutes after the meeting saying he had a great time, I seem very sweet etc.... I replied saying I had a great time too and would like to see him again to which he answered "Sure. Anytime!". I would have liked him to be a little more specific...

I suppose I don't have much to loose by letting him know when I'm free and see if one of these days work for him?

With the holidays, it'll be almost 2 weeks before we could meet again. Is it better to just keep the conversation going and see if he suggests we plan a date?
 
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Just suggest a date and time at some point in the new year.
 
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He already said "anytime," so if you suggest a day/time, it's not as if you'll sound too eager. I'd say go for it.
 
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He already said "anytime," so if you suggest a day/time, it's not as if you'll sound too eager. I'd say go for it.
This is correct IMO. However, as you said he should have suggested a specific day and time and an activity. I would read his response as he is only moderately interested in you and he would like to go out again because he has nothing better to do.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
This is correct IMO. However, as you said he should have suggested a specific day and time and an activity. I would read his response as he is only moderately interested in you and he would like to go out again because he has nothing better to do.
I have to say, I agree. If he really is free "anytime" and interested, I'd expect him to suggest a date a few days to a week after the first. Or maybe call to say he's free whenever and make plans. A text is a little non-committal.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
This is correct IMO. However, as you said he should have suggested a specific day and time and an activity. I would read his response as he is only moderately interested in you and he would like to go out again because he has nothing better to do.
Have to agree with this one. Guys are pretty simple - if he is really interested, you will know and have no doubts about it. This sounds like he is lukewarm at best and chasing after him is taking a risk that you'll just be a convenient space filler when he has nothing better to do.
 
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Call him and keep the communication open, tell him you want to go out. This is a slam dunk.
 
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I think there's too little information in his short text to tell whether he's enthusiastic about you or not. (That's the problem with texting. Messages are intended to be short, and end up being incomplete.)

I think you should text him back and ask him to call you when he's free to talk. Then if he's interested in seeing you again he'll bring the subject up. Or he'll poof on you and you will have your answer.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
This is correct IMO. However, as you said he should have suggested a specific day and time and an activity. I would read his response as he is only moderately interested in you and he would like to go out again because he has nothing better to do.
Remember, guys are learning that if we act too interested, we are clingy/needy/desperate ... so we act only somewhat interested to peak HER interest.

Just suggest something. Particularly if he suggested the initial meetup stuff.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
This is correct IMO. However, as you said he should have suggested a specific day and time and an activity. I would read his response as he is only moderately interested in you and he would like to go out again because he has nothing better to do.
I think Gr8Guy's assessment could be on point here. If he was truly, truly interested, I believed he would've suggested some sort of timeframe.
It can't hurt to try seting up another date (well it can, but it may be worth it), but I'd keep my expectations in check.
 
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