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AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #1  December 21,2009, 11:39am
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to make sure your date doesn't contact you again? Whether it be consciously or subconsciously?


I've exaggerated my conservative views to the liberal guy, told guys things I know they don't want to hear, get on my cell phone on purpose, etc. And not to say these aren't nice guys, just guys where their lifestyle is too different but they want to plan the next date before we've even gotten five minutes into our first meeting.

I'm not trying to be rude to them, but sometimes it seems their interest in me is higher than it should be. I walk in wearing heels and a business suit, he has on Burkenstocks and a sweatshirt with a pot leaf logo. I live in a high pot growing area, so I'm not surprised to meet these men. But I put it out there from the beginning that I don't use it, don't plan to, and really don't like the stuff period.

There are other types of guys too. Like the guys who tell tall tales of who they are.

Just so you all know, I've had a stalker, so it may just be my way of detering a new one.
 
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i just be me; that seems to work to dissuade all but the keepers
 
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A DEA agent once wanted to ask me out. While in his presence I made it sound like I was into the "drug scene" pretty heavily at my college. I'm friends with a wide variety of people, a lot of whom are actively or recovering addicts. I fended him off pretty successfully.
 
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lol....yes I certainly have with a fascinating result. It seems that when he is reeeaaally into you, there is nothing that you say that will deter him beyond just a simple flat out "no thanks." In fact it just seemed to trigger their, "It's OK, I'll fix you and save you from your misguided self." thing.
 
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No, but back in college I did invite a date to a date with another guy. In my defense, the date was a sneak attack. Guy#1 asked me to come out to the movies with him and his friends (this was after I turned him down several times for normal dates). Turned out to be a sneaky double date with him and another couple. I was starting to see guy#2 at the time, so I brought him along. After all, we were supposedly just hanging as friends. Poor guy#1 got the hint and never asked me out again.
 
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Yeah, I am super straight forward. I tell them that we are too differant, there is no need to prolong the inevitable and to make something work that does not have a shot. If they want examples I will even provide examples. Then I tell them that it is best if we never go out again or talk because I do not believe in leading a guy on and calling him a friend when we cleary are not. If he is really nice, I will soften it a bit and tell him I just don't think he is the guy for me. But I do not play games or lead a guy on.

In my younger, less intuned to others feelings days I told a guy he was way too boring for me and that I couldn't see myself with anyone so dull. I think I have more than payed my karmic cost because I have gotten rejected by guys several times since him. But oh well, nobody has to guess how I am feeling about them.
 
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grlnxtdr wrote :
Yeah, I am super straight forward.

If they want examples I will even provide examples.


I told a guy he was way too boring for me and that I couldn't see myself with anyone so dull.
 
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grlnxtdr is offline grlnxtdr Post #8  December 21,2009, 3:48pm
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6dle899 wrote :
Yeah, I know,,but don't worry as they say what comes around goes around...I have had my share of rejection. Lesson learned and now I am just trying to clean my Karmic slate.
 
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grlnxtdr wrote :
In my younger, less intuned to others feelings days I told a guy he was way too boring for me and that I couldn't see myself with anyone so dull. I think I have more than payed my karmic cost because I have gotten rejected by guys several times since him. But oh well, nobody has to guess how I am feeling about them.
Hmmm, did we meet and date the same man? I did the same thing to a guy who has a law degree, a child close to my age, but he never wanted to do anything. I was sooooo bored. It was either stay in his underheated house (did I mention he was a cheapskate as well?) or have $ex in his underheated house after we ate cheap a$$ food and he complained about his ex wife.... oh, sorry, maybe it was more than just being boring.


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I need one of those rolling on the floor laughing emoticons for this one.
 
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Yes. I'll admit to it.

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Last edited by j0hn8andy; December 21,2009 at 4:22pm. Reason: .....ain't sayin' anymore, cuz 6dle is on board.....
 
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