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AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #1  December 20,2009, 10:19pm
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So, I met this guy last night for drinks. (first meeting) It was a nicer restaurant with a bar and we talked for about 2 1/2 hours there. At the 2 hour mark he asked if I was hungry and if I would like to get a late dinner there. The kitchen had just closed, but we were hungry so we went to another (less nice) restaurant. He opened doors for me, drove, basicly the perfect gentleman. (Just a side note, he has a Mustang. He knows I had one that was totalled and sort of offered to let me drive it. I was drooling over the car.)

We spent a long time at the restaurant. Talking, laughing, it was a lot of fun. We talked about hunting, sailing, his kids, my kid. He even joked about having me over for mystery meat (squirel) some time. Then he drove me back to my car. He did come over to my place for a short time. He was the perfect gentleman there as well. Didn't attack me or anything! LOL

When he left we hugged briefly and talked about, but didn't set a definite day/time, to get together some other time. It was VERY late (early morning actually) and I passed out as soon as he left, so he couldn't have been any more awake than I was.

I was very happy, albeit it was a bit too long, with the date. I know he had plans today, so I wasn't expecting any calls, e-mails, texts, etc, during the day. I did send an e-mail thanking him for the date and expressing my interest in seeing him again.

So, am I being "too" impatient for wanting a response today? I usually don't care, but for some reason I kinda expected one today. Unrealistic expectation? And if I'm having an unrealistic expectation here, how long should I expect to wait?

My inner child says "I don't wanna wait! I want it now!"

Interestingly enough, I went to coffee with another guy yesterday, had just as much fun, didn't set another meeting, and I'm not even worried about that.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
So, am I being "too" impatient for wanting a response today? I usually don't care, but for some reason I kinda expected one today. Unrealistic expectation? And if I'm having an unrealistic expectation here, how long should I expect to wait?
Stop watching the clock.
 
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Did he strike you as the kind of guy who would send an email straight away? Have his previous emails come as fast as you could read them? If so then a change in the pattern could be a bit jarring after a good date.
Personally i'd say you need to sit back and take a breath though, i've seen this kind of impatience lead people into reading all kinds of non existent meanings into the "delay" where they ended up talking themselves out of the relationship before it even began.
Balance your chequebook or something, don't even think about if he's going to reply or not, if he still hasn't gotten back to you after a few days that's when i'd start thinking of questions..
 
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Relax.
You can't force a flower to bloom right away or a child to grow. So you cannot force a relationship to progress quicker than it is meant to naturally. In fact, if you try to push it too fast, you can cause it to end rather quickly.
 
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Umm....what they said. Also don't forget it's the week of holiday plans, last minute shopping, travels, family, and other assorted chaos.
 
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I bet you'll get a response based on your recanting of the date. Maybe you're just impatient because it seemed like he had such a good time too (otherwise why drag it out so long?). Anyway, you were right to post here instead of calling/txting/emailing him again. Just try to wait it out and occupy yourself with other stuff
 
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You'll get a response.

Can you be more impatient? yes you can, but I wouldn't recommend it.
 
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ThePriestess wrote :
Stop watching the clock.
Easy for you to say!

DancingFool wrote :
Umm....what they said. Also don't forget it's the week of holiday plans, last minute shopping, travels, family, and other assorted chaos.
You just made me have a duh moment. And you also reminded me I have to start my shopping!

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Anyway, you were right to post here instead of calling/txting/emailing him again. Just try to wait it out and occupy yourself with other stuff
That is why I posted here. Thank goodness for the internet. I can only take so many walks, pick up my house so much and watch tv for so long.

borebore wrote :
You'll get a response.

Can you be more impatient? yes you can, but I wouldn't recommend it.
What would you recommend? LOL


Thank you all. I'm going to have to find a short term hobby until he calls. And I believe he will!
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
That is why I posted here. Thank goodness for the internet. I can only take so many walks, pick up my house so much and watch tv for so long.
I wish you lived near here! I could think of a few things I could set you to work on to get your mind off waiting! *glares at vacuum in the corner*

It sounds like you will definitely hear back from this guy, so just breathe....relax. Expect a call in a few days, so if it comes early, you'll be pleasantly surprised instead of disappointed if it takes longer than you are currently and impatiently hoping for.


Good luck Andie!
 
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qt_py is offline qt_py Post #10  December 21,2009, 11:42am

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If you're allowed to date multiple men at the same time, then he's allowed to date multiple women at the same time too.

By not commiting to a specific time and date, he is also allowing himself to be flexible in meeting other matches as well as you.
 
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