Any women live in NYC? How do you handle the ratio being out of your favor?


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
curlygirl10 is offline curlygirl10 Post #1  December 20,2009, 12:49pm
curlygirl10's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2009

Posts: 2

See profile

There are a lot of stats out there placing the number of women in NY at several times the amount of men. Who knows what is accurate exactly, but if you live here you definitely notice that things are in the mens' favor as far as dating goes. This especially goes for guys who are educated, funny, successful and even somewhat attractive "good catches". Women who fit this description seem to be a dime a dozen for every one man who does. It gets frustrating when you think you have met someone interesting there are always several other girls vying for their attention. This gets even more noticable as you get into your 30's. Any advice on how you deal with this? How do you not let your spirits get crushed and stay positive that you will meet the right one at some point?
 
  Reply With Quote
D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  December 20,2009, 12:59pm
D_Lion's Avatar

- Ladies want to wring my neck - you have been warned!

Sage

Joined: Aug 2008

Posts: 31,659

See profile

I think you overstate the ratio considerably.
 
  Reply With Quote
FairOne is offline FairOne Post #3  December 20,2009, 1:27pm
FairOne's Avatar

Everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die

Veteran

Joined: Nov 2009

Posts: 1,548

See profile

I also live in a major metro area where similar stats are thrown around.
You can't focus on that and you can't spend a lot of time listening to people who focus on that either.
The only thing you can do is stay on top of your game, put yourself in the position to meet people, be pleasant/good company, and stay certain that you will meet 'your guy'. You can't focus on the competition- focus on what *you* bring to the table. Cause really what's the alternative? Worry all of the time? Condemn yourself to a lifetime of competing or being alone? Those options don't sound like fun to me, so I refuse to entertain them!
Best of luck.
 
  Reply With Quote
jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  December 20,2009, 1:46pm
jayjay's Avatar

...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

Sage

Joined: Jun 2008

Brownsville, TX

Posts: 10,932

See profile

Move.
 
  Reply With Quote
SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #5  December 20,2009, 4:00pm
SierraMountai…'s Avatar

The Doctor just called. Your test results are in.

Power Poster

Joined: Apr 2008

California, but NORTHERN California

Posts: 6,025

See profile

jayjay wrote :
Move.
to Loose Gravel, Arkansas.
 
  Reply With Quote
Mainah64 is offline Mainah64 Post #6  December 20,2009, 7:35pm
Mainah64's Avatar

is taking his mini van to the dragstrip in the spring - aiming for mid 15's

Enthusiast

Joined: Jul 2009

South western Maine

Posts: 717

See profile

curlygirl10 wrote :
There are a lot of stats out there placing the number of women in NY at several times the amount of men. Who knows what is accurate exactly, but if you live here you definitely notice that things are in the mens' favor as far as dating goes. This especially goes for guys who are educated, funny, successful and even somewhat attractive "good catches". Women who fit this description seem to be a dime a dozen for every one man who does. It gets frustrating when you think you have met someone interesting there are always several other girls vying for their attention. This gets even more noticable as you get into your 30's. Any advice on how you deal with this? How do you not let your spirits get crushed and stay positive that you will meet the right one at some point?

How exacting are your requirements and specs for a man? If you are looking for the super successful then yes I'd agree with you that those prizes are highly sought after with many chasers. If you are just looking for a truly good man that is your equal as measured by an unbiased third party then I would tend to disagree with you.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Why do men seem to have all the Power!!!! | Dating | I think you Need some Saturday Night Roll Call !!! »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Why Successful Women Can't Find a Great Man eharmonyadvice Ask a Dating Expert 630 August 16,2011 9:01pm
For Smart Women ONLY !!! Seneca Dating 90 May 20,2010 10:56am
Is There Something Dating Articles Aren't Telling Women? outlaw1 A Man's Point of view 22 August 12,2009 8:04am
Having Friends DennisWisconsin A Man's Point of view 3 May 24,2009 7:54am
How can we improve communication between the genders here? eH_Advice_Admin_Lori Talk to your Community Team 148 May 23,2009 3:21pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“but isnt' "comedy" subjective?” –  richey

Join the “I think I blew it...” discussion

“"So, at what point did you decide I was only going to be a one-date kind of guy?" Hi Carole, I am late to this thread. Thanks for such an interesting topic! My initial reaction was to think ... ” –  SearchingHoping

Join the “My first "Matchmaker" date” discussion

“A little tough love... The lesson here: date married men at your own peril. The man was married when YOU began a relationship with him! You keep calling him divorced. Not when you were with him. Once ... ” –  emma_hazards

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion

“Thanks, DancingFool!!!!! I deleted all but 2 pics. I kept the 2 most recent pics. I will work on updating pics soon, hopefully this weekend. Thanks! Suzanne” –  SuzanneScorpio

Join the “Photo Review” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 3:51pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0