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Andrea8823 is offline Andrea8823 Post #1  December 20,2009, 9:25am
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Well I've been dating this guy for about a month and a half or two months. He's a really cool guy, I'm really comfortable around him and we have alot of fun together.

The only problem is that he likes to kiss alot more than I do. Last night, for example, we were making out for a good 25 min, which was cool with me at first.... except that when I'm kissing someone I'm comfortable with, I like to include some heavy petting, but he seemed extremely hesitant to do that. A couple of times he would move his hand toward my butt, and I'd use my hand to keep his there sorta lol.

Like 15 min into the kiss, I sorta didn't feel like kissing anymore, since it wasn't leading up to anything sexual. (that might sound bad on my part, since girls are supposed to be the ones all into kissing). I wasn't like this when I was younger, I was content with just kissing, but I guess I'm just getting older? I still love cuddling with him, I almost fell asleep last night when we were cuddling because I was so relaxed.

I guess my question is, how do I express to him I'd like to include more touching without looking pushy? And also, if we're kissing and I don't feel like it anymore, how do I nonchalantly stop the kiss without being rude?
 
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If you are waiting to have sex, I think it is unfair to "work" a man up. He may not being doing the heavier stuff to respect your guys' wishes to take it slow. (If that is your guys' plan)

I think you may need to find the joy in the tongue. Trust me, sometimes all you need is the tongue.
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
If you are waiting to have sex, I think it is unfair to "work" a man up. He may not being doing the heavier stuff to respect your guys' wishes to take it slow. (If that is your guys' plan)

I think you may need to find the joy in the tongue. Trust me, sometimes all you need is the tongue.

Ohh I know how to find the joy in the tongue

But seriously though, he's not the world's greatest kisser. He's not horrible, and he improved alot since we first kissed, but still not the best I've kissed unfortunately.
 
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I, personally believe, kissing styles can be taught. So get busy teaching!
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
I, personally believe, kissing styles can be taught. So get busy teaching!
+lots! *grin*

And the teaching can be *lots* of fun!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  December 20,2009, 11:48am
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My guess is the reason he's kissing for so long is that he's hesitating to go further toward sex. I expect if or when you get to the point where you're having sex he won't be won't spend more time than you want kissing before sex....unless you're lucky.
 
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I don't get girls. So you're sitting there making out with the guy for 25 minutes HOPING he's going to do something sexual... Why don't you just get a little aggressive and do something sexual yourself? Just do what feels right! I don't get it.
 
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I don't get girls. So you're sitting there making out with the guy for 25 minutes HOPING he's going to do something sexual... Why don't you just get a little aggressive and do something sexual yourself? Just do what feels right! I don't get it.
I think that's just the typical attitude that men are supposed to be the ones to initiate. Whether this be asking the woman out or escalating physical contact. I've even been with women who were still shy about touching me after I had already broken the 'touch barrier' with them. A woman can be more aggressive in this way if she wants, but many women are just more timid.
 
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Agreed with the rest. If things aren't going the way you want, then make it a point to make it where you want to go yourself. So:

1. If ou want to go further, initiate the "going further."
2. If he isn't kissing the way you want, then start kissing him the way you want to be kissed and playfully take "no" for an answer if he isn't complying.

Guys like it when women initiate and aren't afraid to take control. It shows us that you desire us, want us ~ and we're very happy to comply and play along

Make it into a fun, flirtatious, playful thing rather than an issue.

Lastly, as far as "stopping him from kissing" if you want to end it ~ cuddle wit hhim in a position where he can't kiss you. Perhaps in return and to hold im off though, rub his leg or do something else that will make him okay with the kissing stopping.

Good luck.
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Jump him.
 
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