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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  December 18,2009, 2:40pm
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I've seen lots of posts from folks around this age who have never been married so I thought we should have a look at this Group!

40+ And Never Married
I'm going to be eligible for this Group myself in a few years and although I am fortunate in that people don't make some of the weird comments I've heard some people report back to us (yikes!), I definitely struggle with a bit of internal pressure about the fact that I've never married.

This Group is designed to be a haven from that sort of thing and a place where folks can give and get support....and also revel in the positives of being single in this age bracket!

If you're in this category, please check it out!

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A bit too young for this Group? We have a 30-Something and Never Married Group, too:
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  December 18,2009, 2:47pm
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You mean I have to wait until I'm 40 to be "never married?!"

Not fair!
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #3  December 18,2009, 2:49pm
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Nope! I say as long as you've never been married, you're never married!

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SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #4  December 18,2009, 2:56pm
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I think it is unfortunate that people in this boat are forced, in this country, to undergo the questionings and unsavory murmurings about this status.


I was 46 years old when I got married, so I saw a LOT of it, made worse by the fact it was my chioce to live, work and buy a home in San Francisco.

You would have thought that since SF became a "gay mecca" that this kind of thing would not exist, but, alas, nevertheless it did.

Even though well over 50% of its residents have never been married, much similar to NYC and other big cities.

I could only imagine the horror attendant to this, if I had spent those years gestating in white surburbia, or a small rural town somewhere.


It must have affected me, as finally I grimly set about to get married, and did so after a relatively whirlwind courtship, a mistake for which I paid dearly....

Statistics suggest a HUGE number of American households are comprised of never married and formerly married people.

The stigma has faded pretty much though I would be liar to say it did not still exist.....

Now if only there was a way to economically and ecologically sustainably COOK for one person.


I think, maybe - I will open a RESTAURANT for single people.


You'd eat, standing over the SINK.
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That gives me a great idea for a new Group:

"People Who Eat Standing Over the Sink!"
 
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Atlguy38 is offline Atlguy38 Post #6  December 18,2009, 3:39pm
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Well, I got married at 37. It lasted 3 years. Now I wish I was in this category of never married over 40. I've never been hurt so badly by a woman in my life. Its been 10 months since we separated and I'm still in a ton of emotional pain. But I guess being 41 and divorced has less of a stigma because at least women know I can commit. I committed alright, but at a huge price and am trying not to be cynical and guarded.
 
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Wow... you mean there actually more of you out there then just ME?????? YES!!! I don't feel like such an outcast anymore!

(watch there by like a total of 4 members out of a million subscribers lol). Maybe we should re-think this group a little hmmmm? lol

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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #8  December 18,2009, 3:51pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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D_Lion wrote :
That gives me a great idea for a new Group:

"People Who Eat Standing Over the Sink!"
So this evening I learn of two groups I'm eligible for.

If I shacked up through my 20s but not in a legally sanctioned relationship do I still qualify? In my defense we argued in a spiteful and destructive way and didn't have much sex ~ just like a real married couple would've done.

Richey ~ are you really over 40? I thought you were a kid! Or were you talking about the Eat Standing Over the Sink group?
 
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TrixiPooch is offline TrixiPooch Post #9  December 18,2009, 3:57pm
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I'll be 38 in March, so most likely I will be in this group as well. How did it come to this?
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #10  December 18,2009, 3:58pm
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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Ah...not eligible for a few more weeks...oh joy!
 
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