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A guy says he lost your number?

I can think of two specific times when a guy has said this to me.

First guy gave me some long song and dance about his ex coming over to his house (while drunk) and my number being on a piece of paper on the counter. When she left it was gone. Huh? Blew him off and never "regave" my number to him.

The second guy's claim was that he closed his laptop before saving the message I sent it in. The problem with his story is that I called his cell phone from my cell phone. Wouldn't it be there? No ID restrictions on my end.

I'm just wondering if they are playing a game. Trying to see if I'm really interested or something? Do a lot of guys do this?
 
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I actually lost a girl's number once and had to ask for it again. I had changed cell phones and forgot to update my contacts to my computer before I returned my old phone.

But I wasn't trying to date her, she is a friend I know from church and see every week, so it was no big deal. If I get a woman's number who I'm interested in, I make sure I have it in my phone & a hard copy written in a safe place.

I don't think it's a game, I think it's more likely just a shortage of personal responsibility and/or not a strong enough interest. If they ask you for your number again, there is at least some interest, because it's embarrassing to have to admit losing it. Usually game players want to make themselves look good, not incompetent.
 
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Mickey275 is offline Mickey275 Post #3  December 18,2009, 11:11am
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Yes it could be a game. I've never done this to someone but a few women have done it to me. I once dated a woman who vanished for two weeks, then resurfaced, claiming that her phone had been "in the shop" for repair during that stretch of time. Yeah right. If you call someone's cell phone, your number is automatically in their phone...and with caller ID, which is an automatic feature in all cell phones, that person KNOWS you have called. As for trying to test your interest level, believe me, most guys DON'T do this. Let me re-phrase that: real men -- the kind of guy a seemingly groovy chick like you deserves to be with --don't do this.
 
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A guy actually lost or broke (can't quite remember) his cell phone after getting my number. It sounds like something that only happens in the movies, but in this case at least it was true!

In any case, I don't see any harm in regiving the number. If he's just playing games I'm sure it will come to light soon enough, especially if you pay close attention.
 
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It is reasobnably possible for someone to have misplaced your phone number.

If you told him your number to call over the ohone...he wrote it on a piece of paper...then it was lost.

You say you alow people to see your call....BUT....sometimes the receiving phone doesnt pick up the calling history...his phone doesnt have caller id...or if he answers your phone after the first ring the phone may not record the number of the phone call.

I admit....I am human and I forget.



Is it a game....no. \

The bigger issue is it a thing of you always having to call him but he never calls you...then that does smell like a game.
 
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I would not call it game playing I would call it that they just were not that interested and it was an easy excuse for them.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
A guy says he lost your number?

I can think of two specific times when a guy has said this to me.

First guy gave me some long song and dance about his ex coming over to his house (while drunk) and my number being on a piece of paper on the counter. When she left it was gone. Huh? Blew him off and never "regave" my number to him.

The second guy's claim was that he closed his laptop before saving the message I sent it in. The problem with his story is that I called his cell phone from my cell phone. Wouldn't it be there? No ID restrictions on my end.

I'm just wondering if they are playing a game. Trying to see if I'm really interested or something? Do a lot of guys do this?
Uh, me thinks that when you close your laptop that it puts it in sleep mode it does not delete your e-mail. Now for you AOL users, if you don't specifically save your messages AOL deletes them in fairly short order. So I am not going to buy this story.

Seems with my phone that if a call goes to my voice mail then the number never shows up in my call logs. Very curious I think but that does seem to be the way it works.

Don't know if they are playing a game, are not that interested or are just plain flaky. I doubt that a lot of guys do this. I don't.
 
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I lost girls' numbers a LOT of times, especially when they are on little scraps of paper. With those things I am like that guy who can't find his own but t with two hands and a flashlight.

Just the other day I found one in the trunk of the Mercedes; I was mortified. It was from months ago.

Like Travis said to Becky in "Taxi Driver":

I should get one of those signs that says "One of these days I'm gonna get organezized".
 
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Not sure what you're really asking in that 2nd example ~ i couldn't follow it.

Yes, a girl's number can be legitimately and innocently lost. So don't judge it simply because the number got lost. Judge more on the circumstances, explanation, and the way the dude acts towards you that loses the number.

I have a smartphone and sometimes syncing software is a little off. For instance, in going through my address book on my laptop for xmas cards this year, I realized that a few entries had been deleted that I SWORE was on there before ~ all because a sync mistakenly thought it was deleted and thus "updated" by deleting it on both the phone and laptop.

SO IT DOES happen. Also, my dear and close female friend has had to ask me for my phone number like 5X!!! yes annoying, but does it mean she's playing games with me? no. She's just switched phones several times and had computer problems so it keeps geting deleted.

As the saying goes ~ don't judge a book by its cover. Always look between the pages at people's actions, explanation, etc. to find out the real truth.

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It's possible for someone to legitimately lose your number and since it's horribly embarassing to have to admit that, you are likely to get some lame reason for it. Game playing is if they continue to flake out on you time and again. Personally, I'll give them the benefit of the doubt once (no skin off my back) but more than once and I'm done with them.
 
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