How far could a girl go on profile photos?


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jen1980 is offline jen1980 Post #1  December 17,2009, 6:32pm
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We know all photos on magazine covers have been retouched and airbrushed. But how far should one go when altering photos for a dating or socializing service? There are limitless possibilities one could do in Photoshop - so where do you draw the line? There are two sides to this argument - some think photo alterations are deceiving in nature while others think it just merely enhances the best aspects of a person (like someone who wears makeup). What are your thoughts on this?
 
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If I arrange to meet you in person and it turns out that you don't look like your photo, and it's obvious that you have been deceptive, I probably won't even sit down.

There are not two sides to this issue.
 
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I agree with Melman - I will not pay for a liar.

As regards photoshop, if you are sure you look better in person than in a photo, you might take the chance - though it's better to take the time to get better photos.
 
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Yep, I'd agree with melman...either you're going to look like your picture in person or you won't...don't expect to be deceptive with your pictures and expect guys to be pleased when they meet you.

If you're fixing something about the picture from a photographic perspective like adjusting the brightness, contrast, or a red eye effect go ahead, but airbrushing, narrowing your picture, or other such alterations? Absolutely not.
 
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First of all, photos are not necessarily a good representation of how a person looks beyond a general impression.

Second, you don't necessarily need retouching to enhance someone's appearance in a photo. Some people are naturally photogenic and will pretty much always look better in pictures, while others are unphotogenic. Also, lighting and angle make a huge difference in making someone look better or worse.

Third, a camera is more sensitive to gradations of light, which means that very light shadows (like under the eyes) become much darker in pictures.

I would say that it's best to post pictures that are as accurate a reflection of how you look as possible. I see no problem with retouching a photo to minimize things that aren't as apparent to the naked eye (I have photographed clients who don't have visible shadows or bags under their eyes when I look at them, but in certain light those things magically appear.) But I think that if you're going to trim 5 lbs off each arm or 20-30 pounds off your waist, that may be going a bit too far. At the same time, don't stand or sit in a position that makes you look 20 pounds heavier either
 
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cardguy wrote :
If you're fixing something about the picture from a photographic perspective like adjusting the brightness, contrast, or a red eye effect go ahead, but airbrushing, narrowing your picture, or other such alterations? Absolutely not.
But standing in a position that makes you look 20 pounds lighter is fine, right
 
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You guys are not reading the question properly. Are you going to kick a woman out of the door the first time you see her not wearing makeup or when you find out her real hair color is not blonde?

We are doing this for a living. Some women just don't look as good on pictures as they really do in person.
 
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Until meeting, the picture is all a person has to go by and it should be a current unaltered image, not the person you wish you were or used to be.
 
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peg099 wrote :
But standing in a position that makes you look 20 pounds lighter is fine, right
The secret of the MySpace pose is out when it comes to internet dating. Sure there's plenty of things you can do, whether compositionally or electronically, to change the appearance one gives in a photo. The bottom line is still: does it match how I look in reality? If I'm altering a picture in some way, what is the purpose of that alteration?
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shiki wrote :
Until meeting, the picture is all a person has to go by and it should be a current unaltered image, not the person you wish you were or used to be.
This actually holds true for men also- I can't count the number of dates I've met who displayed photos of slender guys with a full head of dark hair when in reality the man was balding, gray and tubby. I should have realized when I looked at the pic again and saw the long sideburns..the pic was probably from the 70s!

Both genders owe it to themselves to have a GOOD current picture taken to put up as a primary photo.

While I don't walk out-after all, the man has taken the time to come and meet me-this is exactly why I won't do anything more than coffee for first meets. No dinners or movies planned-just meet for a couple of hours over coffee. And I've also had 2nd and 3rd dates with guys who hadn't put up a current picture because they were interesting in themselves.

I think it's also important to update your picture if you change something-hair length or color for example. For quite a while I had a summer picture of me wherein my usually auburn hair was more strawberry blond-and I got comments about "I thought you were a blond". So I delegated that pic to the secondary picture fine and had my daughter take another current one.

The only thing I'll Phototoshop are red-eye and shadows. The rest needs to be reality.
 
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