brwneyezinAZ is offline brwneyezinAZ Post #1  December 17,2009, 8:10am
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This is my 3rd round on EH, I met someone a month ago we exchanged emails and finally had a first date about 2 weeks ago. It went very well we were chatting and laughing the entire time. He walked me to my car told me he had a great time and would like to do it again. We exchanged a few text messages over the course of the week. I had to go out of town on business (on Friday) and he messaged me the Sunday before saying "let's get together when your back in town." The week has since come and gone and I never heard from him again, I'm back from my trip and nothing...

SO do I:
1. Take a hint IF he wanted to call/write/text he would?
2. Send him an email asking how his week has been?

Thoughts?

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borebore is offline borebore Post #2  December 17,2009, 11:15am
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If he didn't know when you were going to be back from your trip, I would have let him know when you got back from your trip and then let him make plans to meet.

Maybe he doesn't know that you're back? I think if he really liked you he would have called to see how you're doing on your trip at the very least, but maybe he's one of those guys who don't talk on the phone (which is normal for most guys, but not for me).

My general feeling is that he's not right for you.
 
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Do you really want to date someone who is that forgetful or is unable or unwilling to remember plans with others?
 
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Regardless if you had told him when you were returning I would say that you should have called, e-mailed or sent a text when you returned.

I really don't quite understand why people don't continue to communicate even when they are out of town. In this day and age with everyone having cell phones and laptops with Wi-Fi everywhere there seems little reason that even on the road to not continue to communicate with someone you are interested in.
 
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It would be courteous of you to actually pick up the phone and let him know that you are back in town. I mean do you really expect him to keep track of your schedule? Since he hasn't heard from you, he is probably assuming that you've lost interest in him.
 
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Let me tell you about an experience I had and maybe you can learn from mine.

A few years ago, I was seeing this girl, "Tara". She was a nice girl and things were going well. She decided she "may" go out of town during Thanksgiving weekend to see her sister. I replied, "Great. Have fun. If you don't go, give me a call." She didn't go and got mad when I didn't call her "to check up on her."

Coming from a guy's standpoint and based on this experience, call him. "Just to say you're back." Otherwise, he's going to think you met someone else or you just lost interest. I think he thinks the ball's in you court. Return the serve.
 
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You don't know what's going on with him. Somthing could have come up, he could be busy...who knows.
I say take it into your own hands, give him a shout and ask if he's still up for getting together.
No harm no foul right.
 
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I'm with Dancing Fool here.. Pick up the freaking phone and call him.

"Hi! I'm back in town and would like to see you again, Wow that business trip was crazy. So what have you been up to? Lets get together again-I had so much fun. What are you doing Saturday night?"

works for me.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
. In this day and age with everyone having cell phones and laptops with Wi-Fi everywhere there seems little reason that even on the road to not continue to communicate with someone you are interested in.
Believe it or not-there are places where there isn't any communication except hard wire telephones. Hard to fathom I know, but I have been to several and was supposed to go there this week again.
 
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brwneyezinAZ wrote :

SO do I:
1. Take a hint IF he wanted to call/write/text he would?
2. Send him an email asking how his week has been?

It isn't clear if you communicated the duration of the trip, but as a general comment, when one person is the constraint on getting together, it is that person's duty to make the communication as they get their availability under control.

In this, you should communicate once you know when you're able to meet.

Also, you should be showing interest, and always sitting and waiting for a man displays a lack of interest.

I would not bother with "how was your week," I would have a specific date invitation.
 
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