**Today's Featured Group: Widow / Widower's Group***

So please share us your best date with the late Mr or Mrs ...

I absolutely love this perspective. This would be a great discussion to start in the Group!

oh, I think you not thinking this matter through ... you've had 27 years of daily dates, perhaps more than one in the same day ... oh, it might have been with the same bloke/shelia ... kinda like groundhog day (ove and over again) ... so I reckon you've plenty of opportunity to have got it right ... unlike the comparative ametures, who may only have date evey other week or so at best ...
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Fleuellen, would you like to start the thread? It was your idea, maybe you should have the Honors.....

As a divorced person seeing someone who has lost his spouse, we are both coming to the relationship out of marriage with a similar length for that relationship. The big difference is that he still loves his wife, and I only have feelings of friendship for my ex-husband, so I have had to make peace with the idea that he will always love another woman. I think that reading some of the discussions in this group has helped me to approach our relationship with more understanding.

I'd like to speak to this, if I may.

One thing I realized early on was that I would have wanted my husband to love again, if he could, had I died first. I would not have wanted him to be alone if he didn't have to be. I believe he would want the same for me. So if it happens for me, I won't have any guilt. I can approach it with a free heart.

It will be important to me to choose a man whom I believe my husband would have liked, even wanted for a friend. Someone who would have liked him, too.

As for loving another, and still loving him.....maybe that's how it will be for me, I don't know. It's only been a year for me now.

But should it happen.....I envision it like a woman who has two or more children.

She loves them all, doesn't she?

j8a