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DanielJr82 is offline DanielJr82 Post #1  November 29,2009, 7:52pm
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I've been communicating with one of my matches from eHarmony and I'd like to try dating her. We haven't met yet, so far it's mostly e-mails, pictures, and a few phone calls. I like her, a lot! So I'd hate to ruin it with a bad date.

We live 2 hours apart (wow, right?), so I'm thinking I could either drive to her town or we meet halfway; I'm leaning on the latter. "Half way" could be a lot of places, so I'd like just a few general ideas of places or activities that we could do and are available in most towns (unless we meet in Boston which has everything... hmmmm... The Museum of Science is not a bad idea actually, though that's probably better for a second date).

Anyways... ideas, tips, input! Anything and everything shall and will be considered! Thanks!


--Update--
We're going out this Saturday, the 16th. I'm driving to her town, we're going to have lunch, play pool, and possibly watch a movie. I'll be back for advice on a second date if all goes well, lol.

--Update #2--
Date went well, but no chemistry. No second date.
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"Half way could be a lot of places" isn't very helpful. Is there a city half way? Small towns? Scenery? Hiking? It's hard to tell if it's 2 hours of country, forest or urban sprawl if we don't know the area.
 
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since you live a distance apart and half way offers good options, I'd go for a public venue (art museum if you're into that is always a hit with me-the "Science Museum is a grand idea if it has fun exhibits and maybe an IMAX theatre as my local science museum does.

If you like music, try a classical symphony on a weekend afternoon with dinner afterward.

Since one or both of you has to commute, it makes things more difficult than the usual coffee shop for a first meet that quite a few of us use.

Why not include her in setting up the plans..many women love to plan things, and checking out what is going on in your area is so easy now. Make planning a fun part of the date!

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Two hours? Psch....half ways are for sissies ....just step on it and meet her at her home turf!

Heck I've done it before (3 hour drive)..even stayed overnight at the hotel so that the next day I am fresh..ready to go.

Doesn't feel right to ask the woman to drive an hour just to meet on a date.

Two hours ain't far! Especially if she's uber cute!
 
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That's the thing, I'm not very familiar with what's past my city. She lives in New Hampshire and I live in Massachusetts. MapQuest tells me that Boston is right at the center for both of us. There's also Salem and Quincy. All three cities are in the eastern coast of Mass., so I don't know if that's playing fair or not.

Boston sounds great, but I'd like to try a smaller town or something first. So things to do in small cities or towns would be appreciated.
 
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RoxyRedhead wrote :
Why not include her in setting up the plans..many women love to plan things, and checking out what is going on in your area is so easy now. Make planning a fun part of the date!
Really? I always figured the man has to plan the dates. :P

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Two hours? Psch....half ways are for sissies ....just step on it and meet her at her home turf!
You think so? Hmmm... how did that work out, by the way?
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DanielJr82 wrote :
That's the thing, I'm not very familiar with what's past my city. She lives in New Hampshire and I live in Massachusetts. MapQuest tells me that Boston is right at the center for both of us. There's also Salem and Quincy. All three cities are in the eastern coast of Mass., so I don't know if that's playing fair or not.

Boston sounds great, but I'd like to try a smaller town or something first. So things to do in small cities or towns would be appreciated.
Thanks for the clarification--I didn't understand from the OP that Boston was actually half way.

Well, I'm going to be no help for suggesting things for small towns. Personally, if I was going to meet someone and we were both to drive about an hour, I might like to have lunch if you can find a place that's quaint and unique. I imagine Salem should have several museums (even one about witches?) to see if you want to continue your date.
 
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DanielJr82 wrote :
Really? I always figured the man has to plan the dates. :P


You think so? Hmmm... how did that work out, by the way?
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Nope it didn't work out. I got two nice dates out of it though...plus it was awesome going out for drinks the night before (she invited me for a drink when she knew I was at the hotel), met her for coffee..walked around town, had lunch and hung out some more. Although I'm sure I messed it up somewhere, I still had a great time.
 
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Boston sounds way fun, really! I don't know whats in the smaller towns, but I've been to Boston and enjoyed it a lot..but the weather this time of year may be problematic-You get more snow there than we do here on the left coast.
 
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The most important rule in meeting someone new is safety. For this reason you want to drive separately, meet in a public place where there are a lot of people around. Then for a first date you want someplace where you can talk and get to know each other. For these reasons I think that a restaurant for dinner is the best place for a first date.

Then there are some things to consider in this particular situation. You want the girl to be as comfortable meeting you as possible. Therefore going to her town would be best. She is then in a familiar area. Meeting halfway would be a fair way to do it but then you are asking the girl to drive an hour, possibly to a town that she is not that familiar with. Unless she suggests this then I don't think you should ask her to do that. For a first meeting I would not plan on an all day excursion such as your idea of the museum. I would save such date ideas for a bit later in the relationship after you know that you get along well enough to spend several hours together.
 
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