What Is Your Definition Of A Serial Dater?


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parakeetjordan is offline parakeetjordan Post #1  November 27,2009, 8:43am
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I've never really heard of the term "serial dater" until recently, and I don't really know what that term means. When I did a google search on it, I got some interesting, varied definitions. What is your definition of the term "serial dater"?

Definition #1. Serial Dater:


One who engages in the process of systematically dating an obscene amount people in short span of time. This definition encompasses but is not limited to internet dating, bar dating, long distance flirtations, phone service dating, blind dating, expiration dating, match making, one night stands, friends with benefits, and personal ad surfing. Can be considered a politically correct alternative to word "player" both with and without a negative connotation.


You do not want to date my roommate, that guy is such a serial dater.

Good luck getting anything meaningful out of her, she's too much into serial dating.

Definition #2. Serial Dater

One who starts the chain of love by dating a boy/girl. After breaking up with them, they proceed to date all of their ex's friends. Once the serial dater has dated the entire circle of friends, the group realizes that they've just been serial dated.


Did you hear about Katie? She went out with Mark...but after they broke up, she went out with his friends Tony, Josh, and Brad.

Definition #3. Serial Dater

A serial dater is someone who can't be alone, must be dating someone at all times. If one relationship ends, almost immediately the "serial dater" begins a relationship with a new person. A serial dater is not necessarily a sort of lothario.

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I can't say that I like either of your definitions.

I would define a serial dater as someone who dates one person after another where the intent is never to develop a long term relationship. They date someone without having a clearly defined motive for the outcome.

This is not to be confused with a player. A player would be someone that dates someone with a clear goal of a conquest. Once the goal has been achieved then they are no longer interested in that person but will set their sights on someone else to conquer.

But of course this is my take on these two definitions and who knows if I am correct or not.
 
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I think you are spot on Gr8Guyn
 
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I have some awareness of #1 and #3:

Women who try to keep multiple men available, choosen for what they will buy her. I don't really know what the long term strategy is with these women (and I'm not staying around to find out.)

Women who really need someone to feel okay; these kind do seem motivated to marry. This is mainly concerning because I doubt their ability to make healthy choices, or identify with a motivational factor outside of the partner.
 
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Cereal dater:

That frosty flakes Kellog's kinda person. They are into Leprechuans, marshmallow bits, Co Co Puffs, prizes inside a box
and go for Captain Crunch humor.

Typically you can find them buying milk or watching a Seinfeld show.

Ok on a less serious note:

Those addicted to dating. Who appear to be on a continous dating quest for the perfect person. They might be highly polished daters who after a date or several, find shallow and materialistic reasons to continue looking.

Now here's the funny part. I don't think this applies to young people. That's what young people do, they date. So then maybe that leaves the 40+ and above crowd?

But one problem, lots of people in their 40s, right out of a bad marriage and free for the first tiem in a long time, might go on a dating binge.

So even that criteria might be wrong? In the end I think it's the person addicted to dating. And like any addiction, they can be out of control.

If they are enjoying themselves, then that's great. But if they don't like themselves, feel dirty or ashamed after a date and that feeling continues, can no longer
function, then perhaps they need to go to RogueWolf's Dating Addiction 12 Steps Wilderness School.
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Did someone accuse you of being a serial dater parakeet?
 
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nightling wrote :
Did someone accuse you of being a serial dater parakeet?
No, but when I came across that term, I was thinking about whether that applies to me or not. I am dating several men, but that isn't so unusual. My goal isn't to date endlessly without a long-term relationship in mind as the ultimate goal. I am selective about who I date. I'm just finding that there are a lot of great guys out there.
 
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roguewolf1 wrote :
Cereal dater:

That frosty flakes Kellog's kinda person. They are into Leprechuans, marshmallow bits, Co Co Puffs, prizes inside a box
and go for Captain Crunch humor.

Typically you can find them buying milk or watching a Seinfeld show.

Ok on a less serious note:

Those addicted to dating. Who appear to be on a continous dating quest for the perfect person. They might be highly polished daters who after a date or several, find shallow and materialistic reasons to continue looking.

Now here's the funny part. I don't think this applies to young people. That's what young people do, they date. So then maybe that leaves the 40+ and above crowd?

But one problem, lots of people in their 40s, right out of a bad marriage and free for the first tiem in a long time, might go on a dating binge.

So even that criteria might be wrong? In the end I think it's the person addicted to dating. And like any addiction, they can be out of control.

If they are enjoying themselves, then that's great. But if they don't like themselves, feel dirty or ashamed after a date and that feeling continues, can no longer
function, then perhaps they need to go to RogueWolf's Dating Addiction 12 Steps Wilderness School.
LOL Well, honestly, I've watched porn before, and I don't find it that appealing unless it is very well done with lots of romance and plot, and the actors are attractive, and don't look like hookers. So, I guess porn is not an acceptable substitute for me personally...unless you can suggest some "good ones" that fit my criteria as mentioned above.
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D_Lion wrote :
I have some awareness of #1 and #3:

Women who try to keep multiple men available, choosen for what they will buy her. I don't really know what the long term strategy is with these women (and I'm not staying around to find out.)

Women who really need someone to feel okay; these kind do seem motivated to marry. This is mainly concerning because I doubt their ability to make healthy choices, or identify with a motivational factor outside of the partner.
In your definition of serial daters, does it include men as well?
 
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Oh fluk, I lost my post. The most ingenius post of my life deleted by a pinkie finger. It coulda won an award; I coulda been a contender.

"And know the Award for the most ingenius online dating reply to a woman, goes to...what's that? Oh fluk he deleted it? Really? Uhm, hold on folks. Our runner up is this years winner. Lets give a hand to Spider "hairyback" BigBelly."

Porn-having a girlfriend is a much better option than watching porn. Years ago (warning Man Secret #3 revealed!) I had porn tapes I hid them under my dresser draw.

Having a girlfriend means you can hug her, eat popcorn together, take a walk and laugh. You are right about porn movies. Maybe women can make better ones? Ah you need a Harlequin Porn!


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LOL Well, honestly, I've watched porn before, and I don't find it that appealing unless it is very well done with lots of romance and plot, and the actors are attractive, and don't look like hookers. So, I guess porn is not an acceptable substitute for me personally...unless you can suggest some "good ones" that fit my criteria as mentioned above.
 
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