flowerchild66 is offline flowerchild66 Post #41  November 27,2009, 9:36am
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6dle899 wrote :
... all of a sudden I noticed one of the caregivers paying me A LOT more attention than I expected; I realized she was real pretty, very well traveled and educated and animated too. --- and just my age! And evidently single also.


There is a VERY good chance she may come back to that place and I will see her again.

Out of curiosity 6, why didn't you ask this woman out on the spot or at least ask for her phone number? I'm just trying to understand the thought processes of men
 
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Please don't worry. You are not alone. This thing gets more complicated the older you get. I am in that phase where I am taking time to appreciate myself and just enjoy being single. Believe me, there is merit in this time. Men seem to be attracted to women who know what they want, are NOT desperate and have their own lives. I am sure you have many interests you can pursue right now and then share those with that special someone who is on his way when the time is right. Best wishes!
 
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Atlguy38 wrote :
"Wow, is this bad advice. WOW. A woman nearing 40 wanting to get married (and presumably have children?) has exactly and absolutely ZERO room to be playing games."
I agree wholeheartedly with this statement. I have zero time for games.
Yes, I should have mentioned that my age group is late 30s like that of the author, and I too have zero time for games.

W we men have it good in that our market value is still climbing as we crest 40 and don't/shouldn't have to put up with it.
 
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Wow. Ten million things at play here. First off, The issue is with you and how you see yourself. Since you already came out and said "I feel like there's something wrong with me...family and friends, and thanksgiving, and husbands and kids, I could stand to lose 15 lbs, im unemployed........."

Guys can smell that from a mile away. If you are not happy with the way you look, the company you keep or the job you have then no man is going to make it better for you. Take a step back from looking for a husband, lose the weight you want to lose, get a job and some stability and eschew the notion that you are a loser without a husband and kids.

When you walk around as though you are the happiest person on earth because your house is in order - guys will notice.
 
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I'm sure your attractive and beatiful as well. There's no perfect shape or size. They all work. Besides, physical attraction is only a first impression and is more or less a temporary thing. It works from a distance. It seems to me that attitude and confidence are more significant. Did you ever notice that when you are feeling really good and you are happy you attract more attention and smiles? I've noticed this for myself. I find that if I'm lacking confidence and feel nervous it tends to make the person I am attracted to nervous and uncomfortable. You are very attractive but if you feel you can't wow a person with your looks then get in close and wow them with your personality. Don't worry about rejection either. Some people are very stubborn, unwilling to open up and will close up and/or run from the first sign of love. If you have the time an patience you can be persistent and break down their barrier to see what's really inside. What it really boils down to in the end is that love is blind. Accept yourself and other people for who they are (all the good stuff and everything else).
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Since writergal posted this almost exactly a year ago, I hope she had a much better year and a better Thanksgiving this year than last.

It is a reminder that the holidays can be a particularly tough time for some singles.
 
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flowerchild66 wrote :
Out of curiosity 6, why didn't you ask this woman out on the spot or at least ask for her phone number? I'm just trying to understand the thought processes of men
Many men are intimidated by women that they attracted to. The reasons are many: Fear of rejection, fear that they are not good enough for her, fear that they can't meet her expectations in regards to social class, intelect, physical stature, attractiveness etc. Most men are just as fearful and sensistive as women are when it comes to love. Ask any man about their experience with heart break. Some will try to play it down, others may break down in tears when they tell you and some will just close up and say nothing. The tough guy, play it down guy cried just as hard as anyone else did.
 
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