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I got this in an email the other day. Is this true andcould it be titled "If a woman wants you" ?

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

- May 14th, 2008, 02:02 am
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SweetKatieA, wrote :

I got this in an email the other day. Is this true andcould it be titled "If a woman wants you" ?

IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Everything after the first paragraph is true, in my opinion. I especially like the "Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy" line. A person should really know themself before they enter into a deep relationship or it won't work.

I don't think it works well if you reverse for the opposite sex, though (it just didn't strike me for some reason).
- May 14th, 2008, 02:56 am
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OK so someone wright me something that does apply to the opposite sex. It would be VERY helpful.
- May 14th, 2008, 04:15 am
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SweetKatieA wrote :
OK so someone wright me something that does apply to the opposite sex. It would be VERY helpful.
This reminds me of a quote...



If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, it was meant to be; if they don't, hunt them down and kill them.
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Jevon wrote :
SweetKatieA wrote :
OK so someone wright me something that does apply to the opposite sex. It would be VERY helpful.
This reminds me of a quote...



If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, it was meant to be; if they don't, hunt them down and kill them.
Lol
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It scares me sometimes when anecdotes like this float around. While there may be a few nuggets of truth, someassertions are more stereotypical impressions that are not real accurate.

Example of self contradictary statements; You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. (complimentary comes from the root of "complete"which is to add to make complete orhave all you need)
- May 14th, 2008, 05:33 am
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Hummm... the english language is a very very scary thing.
- May 14th, 2008, 05:34 am
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my two cents I would agree with 99 % of it for either gender I just think the lines :Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.


You can make a man miss you with him knowing where you are ie.outwith friends/seperate vacation.

Some thing about A MAN GIVING YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEED this should be emotionally not materially IMHO.
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SweetKatieA wrote :
OK so someone wright me something that does apply to the opposite sex. It would be VERY helpful.
Men cannot read minds, let alone their own at times. Communicate every chance you have.
- May 14th, 2008, 07:20 am
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