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Do you think that the guy or the girl should be the person to initiate the first kiss?

Also, from your guys' experience, how many dates was it before you kissed someone new you were dating?
- November 21st, 2009, 12:41 pm
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Well, what I can say is I've kissed quite a few women in my life....and I have always been the one to initiate the first kiss. I think the first kisses have always been on the first or second date. Until now.
- November 21st, 2009, 12:44 pm
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I think both should.

I man should because setting up a take-charge attitude is the right way to go.

A woman should because some good men are just nervous or afraid to scare away a woman by being too aggressive.

I would say first or second meeting is okay. If she doesn't see me as a candidate for in intimate romantic partnership, then I should cut my losses now.
- November 21st, 2009, 12:57 pm
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Well if I want to be traditional, then the man should initiate the first kiss.
If I do not care about tradition and want people to be free to do what they feel like doing, then either can initiate.
If I am a man who fears offending or scaring a woman, then I should let her initiate. I may have to wait a very long time to get kissed.

I think they're generally more mutual than that. Usually there's some context, body language etc. that says "a kiss is about to happen".
- November 21st, 2009, 12:59 pm
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Either could, although I've never dated a girl that would. I always wait until the second date, I've had enough first dates that were more sour than I realized so for me I take a wait and see approach.
- November 21st, 2009, 01:14 pm
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Sassafras54 wrote :
Well if I want to be traditional, then the man should initiate the first kiss.
If I do not care about tradition and want people to be free to do what they feel like doing, then either can initiate.
If I am a man who fears offending or scaring a woman, then I should let her initiate. I may have to wait a very long time to get kissed.
So which are you?
- November 21st, 2009, 01:15 pm
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I dont think it matters who initiates. What do you define as initiaiate.

I prefer when it just happens without the feeling that is was forced like I need to kiss her.

I dont look for it on the first date. Especially not the first time meeting....but sometimes it just happens.

I look for other signs before I even attempt to kiss.....like holding hands.
- November 21st, 2009, 01:15 pm
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jayjay wrote :
So which are you?
I can't say. They just seem to happen. I guess I'm the "mutual" type.

Why is there not a little kiss smily to put here? -->
- November 21st, 2009, 01:40 pm
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Sassafras54 wrote :
I can't say. They just seem to happen. I guess I'm the "mutual" type.

Why is there not a little kiss smily to put here? -->
Ok....that would be 'noncommittal'.
- November 21st, 2009, 01:44 pm
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So I send you a kiss smily (sort of) and you stick your little pink tongue out at me ?

Now this would be why I prefer mutual rather than initiating!
- November 21st, 2009, 01:49 pm
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