Does a woman's financial well being, profession, and wage matter to the men?

Why even bother to wait until the first meeting/date? Wouldn't it be even more efficient to just ask all of these questions as screeners to help decide whether to meet at all? Heck; include them in your profile so your matches can spend some time in advance preparing their paperwork for inspection. Think of all the time and trouble that would save!

Seriously, it really does seem to me that you should expect to be able to get through a first cup of coffee or meal without being asked to disclose all of your personal financial information. There are many reasons for why someone might not want to discuss this with a veritable stranger other than having "something to hide." Frankly, I'd be more wary of someone who wanted to spew out every manner of private information about himself at a first meeting (or first few meetings) than I would of someone who has a zone of privacy on these issues.

No seriously that does sound good! I am open in my profile about what I do even though that may have some negative connotations to some... I'm a nerd! If some woman doesn't want a nerd then don't waste my time!

A lady contacted me who was self employed. After a couple of e-mails I asked about her background, what is your background in scuba, is your family local, what field is your business in?

That killed that conversation! I wasn't asking for a financial statement or a copy of her tax return. Yeah? maybe she is a doctor and is to timid to answer that she is in the medical field. Yeah right!

Another profile I read... I am a nurse, I have two kids named xxx and xxx and her income is listed in the income field like mine is. I sent her an e-mail even though I was tempted to send her a marriage proposal. WHY? Because she makes good money? No!... because she didn't have anything to hide! It was SO REFRESHING to have someone be upfront that I forgot to look at her pictures before I sent her an e-mail. (She is attractive to boot!)

You don't have to answer ANY question you don't want to. I have A LOT of respect for "I don't feel comfortable discussing that yet". If you are elusive about what you do or if you are even employed it was a complete waste of my time to even go out on a date with you!

I happen to be renting currently and I have to mention I pay out the wazoo to live where I live because it's what I'm used to, it's home to us, and the schools are top notch. I just wanted to interject that just because someone is renting, it doesn't mean they are broke or can't afford their lifestyle. I know people with beautiful homes in very well to do areas whose mortgage payments are lower than my rent. I also know people of affluence who are broke and miserable because of the way they've conducted their lives or an ex taking them to the cleaners. Guess my point is that you cant judge a book by it's cover.

I happen to be renting currently and I have to mention I pay out the wazoo to live where I live because it's what I'm used to, it's home to us, and the schools are top notch. I just wanted to interject that just because someone is renting, it doesn't mean they are broke or can't afford their lifestyle. I know people with beautiful homes in very well to do areas whose mortgage payments are lower than my rent. I also know people of affluence who are broke and miserable because of the way they've conducted their lives or an ex taking them to the cleaners. Guess my point is that you cant judge a book by it's cover.

For those of you who do want to ask about finances early on ... what level of detail would satisfy you? I don't want to tell a stranger anything specific about my financial situation, but I understand they could have a reasonable need to know generally whether I'm a deadbeat, golddigger, massively behind in debt, etc. Would these kinds of answers satisfy you? or do you need exact numbers? or what?

"I live well within my means and tend to be a saver rather than a spender."
"I have always supported myself, without help."
"I don't do debt."
"I'm not cheap about important things."
"I do not expect a man to support me, and am unlikely to support a man."
"My income is enough to support a middle-class lifestyle."
"I am paying off a mortgage/big medical bills/my kids' college loans etc and have never made a late payment."
"My car is paid off."

I would be ok saying things at this level of detail, I guess.

To be very blunt... On a first date if we aren't wondering about your financial situation and habits we are just sitting there wondering what it would be like to have sex with you.

If we are wondering about your financial situation and habits we are wondering what it would be like to have sex with you and only you for the rest of our lives.