Does a woman's financial well being, profession, and wage matter to the men?

I have recently gone on a few dates with men that I have met online. During the first "meet and greet" I have gotten what I would deem inappropriate questions to ask when first meeting a person. Some of these questions have been: Do you have any debt? Do you have savings? When do you think you'll look for a job in a more stable industry? How many hours per week do you work?

While I've answered these questions honestly, it has made me wonder why they ask. I am by no means a gold digger, I have a career that I love, and while I'm not rolling in the dough I am able to afford some of the finer things in life -debt free. Are they afraid that I'll mooch off them, or are they just so stingy they don't even want to think of ever having to support a woman - the thought of "my money is my money and her money is her money?" I'm a fairly generous woman and I enjoy giving to those who I care about. If ever I was with a man who I cared about who needed to rely on me to support him, I'd be there. No questions. I also want a man who feels the same way, but it seems that with some men they may not feel the same way.

I feel that the first meet and greet should be more about how two people get along, if there is chemistry, and if the two people like each other's company. It could be me but it seems that in a way online dating gets to the nitty gritty in the profile, so the man in my case feels free to continue the check off list during the 1st date/meet n' greet.

The one date I had recently who I didn't meet online did not ask about my financial status. We covered jobs briefly, hobbies, travel, the great outdoors, and it was absolutely refreshing.

So a question to the men since I've noticed on some profiles on other sites that it's important that a woman makes a certain wage, etc.: Does it matter to you men what a woman does for her profession, that she make a certain amount, that she work a certain amount of hours per week, and that financially you'll never have to help her out?

I never that I thought it was fair for women to do it.

I don't think it's a particularly useful tool when either gender does it - basing a relationship on what you can get from it is just a recipe for unhappiness, and "ambition" can be defined in so many ways that I don't think the questions cover it in such a way that all people are given a fair chance.

But whatever.

I know a lot of women who were raised under the "find a good man and be a good wife" mantra and this doens't excite me in the slightest.

Huh? So what are you looking for? Someone who doesn't intend to be a good wife? That makes no sense.

Restaurant server and part-time student at 26 doesn't seem attractive to me whether she wants money out of me or not.

Its not about what I can or cant "get" out of the relationship - its about trying to avoid a toxic individual. Ambition can take on a lot of different meanings. For me, if someone is content to do more than skate through life and is actually demonstrating they are working towards it then they would be someone worthwhile.

I know a lot of women who were raised under the "find a good man and be a good wife" mantra and this doens't excite me in the slightest.

Think about it for a second. im not looking at the moment, but if I were, that person would want to do more with their life than simply be a spouse to someone else.

Old Chinese saying "when man tell truth about relationship, woman over cook his noodle."

Funny whenever a man tells the truth, he is attacked by the same personalities.

Who incidentally all advocate men tell the truth. Repeat cycle.

When someone asks you to tell the truth...they aren't guaranteeing they'll like what you have to say.

lol
for some reason I kept thinking about that freecreditreport.com commercial where he marries his "Dream Girl" but she ends up having bad credit so they have to shack up with her parents.

I find it pretty sad/hilarious that at the end of the jingle he says he'd rather be a bachelor with an awesome pad instead of a (albeit) awkward living situation with his soul mate.

sadly capitalism has a backdoor of sorts into the hearts of the people who lack the ability to see past the age-old trick of social proofing. We end up valuing things--"symbols" of status over real life experiences/character, and people.