GEF2 is offline GEF2 Post #1  November 17,2009, 7:53pm
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For the men:

What keeps a man wanting more in the early stages of dating?

What things do women do that make you want to go out of your way for her?

What things about her would make you start to think she's a keeper?

Is there anything a woman should not do in the beginning that might scare you away?
 
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Andrea8823 is offline Andrea8823 Post #2  November 17,2009, 8:00pm
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Hmm.. I'm interested in seeing the answers to these questions. I hope you guys respond!
 
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Laughingdaily is offline Laughingdaily Post #3  November 17,2009, 8:15pm
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Disclaimer time once again; nothing posted here is directed at anyone of either gender or anyone else for that matter.

OP your questions may be taken out of context and I am not trying to pick on you in any way. It almost sounds like you are asking what you need to do to attract a man.

Maybe you want to think about how your questions may sound to the guys out there who may be not quite as honest as I am.

You should be who you are, decide what you want in a man and go from there.
 
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The main thing that I want is to have a nice, relaxing time with a date. If I enjoy myself & your company then I will want to do it again & again & again.

I like to see a goofy side & not much in the self-conscious side...at least when dealing with me. I want to see that we can be comfortable & that we can flow in an easy way.

As far as a keeper goes, my ideal would be someone that I could work together with where we didn't even have to talk strategy in problem/task solving. We would just do it. I am not big on discuss, discuss, discuss. I have worked with people this way & it is incredible how smoothly & quickly things can go

In short, be easy (however you wish to define that) , smooth, & fun.

Also, show off your neck & shoulders.
 
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Laughingdaily wrote :
It almost sounds like you are asking what you need to do to attract a man.

You should be who you are, decide what you want in a man and go from there.
I have never understood why one must insist to be who s/he is and is not willing to improve her/himself. For example, if I know that the type of men I want love knowledgeable women, then I do not see what is wrong with me in improving myself to know more because that particular type of attributes is beneficial to me, period. The same with men who want women in a good shape: if I am in a good shape, that is actually beneficial for me too. If those men want someone who is a good communicator, hey, what is wrong with improving myself to be a better communicator?

To me one must already be completely perfect to think that s/he should just stay the way s/he is and not improving anything. If the side effect is attracting people of the opposite sex, what's wrong with that?
 
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GEF2 wrote :
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What keeps a man wanting more in the early stages of dating?
Assuming we've cleared the basics (mutual physical attraction, etc). Just being treated with kindness, being easy going, focus on wanting to know me as a person rather than dating as the whole procedure and other 'please wine and dine me 'factor.

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What things do women do that make you want to go out of your way for her?
If I feel that you're a kind, fair person, and you don't wait and 'expect' me to do things for you, 'just because' (or manipulatively say stuff like 'if you loved me, this is how you show it') or any other form of self-entitlement, I would do many things for you gladly.

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What things about her would make you start to think she's a keeper?

Is there anything a woman should not do in the beginning that might scare you away?
Keeper- Kindness, fairness, loyalty, emotionally healthy, fun (yes all from the same woman )

Anything that a woman should not do: Don't start pulling the crazy rules and make a man feel small for not following your personal preferences. Be kind. Don't make us pay for your ex's mistakes. Don't put yourself on a pedestal, just because you're a woman, it is as equally ridiculous as me putting you down because you are a woman. Treating each other with kindness and respect because we BOTH deserve it.

So this is just my personal thoughts, not meant as an attack and not meant as a starting point for a rebuttal. This is purely my response to the OP's question.

My .02
 
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GEF2 wrote :
What keeps a man wanting more in the early stages of dating?
Less (clothes).

GEF2 wrote :
What things do women do that make you want to go out of your way for her?
Success at Farmville.

GEF2 wrote :
What things about her would make you start to think she's a keeper?
Well-stocked fridge.

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Is there anything a woman should not do in the beginning that might scare you away?
Introduce me to her boyfriend.
 
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1-3) It's all about personality... which of course is reflected in behaviors.

4) Again, comes back to personality, which of course is reflected in behaviors. Coming across as being clingy, or overly ready to bend over backwards (in the emotional sense, not the physical sense). I wouldn't call it scaring off per se, though. I don't think of myself running for the hills after a date short of finding out that she's carrying a copy of "To Serve Man" in her purse.
 
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GEF2 wrote :
For the men:

What keeps a man wanting more in the early stages of dating?

What things do women do that make you want to go out of your way for her?

What things about her would make you start to think she's a keeper?

Is there anything a woman should not do in the beginning that might scare you away?
1. Attraction.

2. Show that she's interested in you just as you're interested in her.

3. If she had the qualities that the guy was looking for in a long-term partner.

4. Talk about marriage or kids or committment.
 
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GEF2 wrote :
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What keeps a man wanting more in the early stages of dating?

Not so much moe, but not want her to get away. I want her to choose me! Oh, and why do I want her ... how long is piece of string?

What things do women do that make you want to go out of your way for her?

Easy, show interest/ excitment with me. Eg, recently a woman gave me a pastry she had baked earlier that day. I was so touched!

What things about her would make you start to think she's a keeper?

You just feel it!

Is there anything a woman should not do in the beginning that might scare you away?

Talk about money, make demands, not listern ... I was about to say not kiss, but I did stay aound a somewhat consevative woman because she had a gorgous face.

I guess I's like em to dress well too. Not be sad. Or dull/ scared. Or have interest/ caeer incompatible with yiur own, and live more that 10~15km away.
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