First Date same as First Meet?


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RoxyRedhead is offline RoxyRedhead Post #1  November 16,2009, 6:43pm

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Reading the Panda Express posts I wondered.....

Is a first meeting the same to most of you as a first date?

I almost always suggest Starbucks for coffee as the place to meet a new guy. But maybe its a Northwest thing?

I guess I don't consider the initial meeting an actual date.

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IMO the first meet only has a possibility of being a first date.

It would have to be a very quick connection. It does happen but most of the time will not. I would not have expectations of it being a date.
 
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[quote=RoxyRedhead;799844]Reading the Panda Express posts I wondered.....

Is a first meeting the same to most of you as a first date?

I almost always suggest Starbucks for coffee as the place to meet a new guy. But maybe its a Northwest thing?

I guess I don't consider the initial meeting an actual date.

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I look at when meeting people from EH I look at it as a first meeting...not a first date. Sure things could develop.
 
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I go into the first time I'm meeting the person thinking it's just a quick "meeting". Usually meeting for coffee or drinks. And for the most part, it's more just trying to find an hour that's convenient for both of us which means, if I have dinner plans with a friend after our meeting, he shouldn't be insulted because we agreed we were meeting for a quick drink/coffee.

However, IMO first meetings can turn into a first date if you're really hitting it off and end up spending several hours with them.

As with VBgirl, technically, both are really "dates" so to speak. One just takes some of the pressure off...I think.
 
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I think it's the same thing.
 
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Relaxed, easy going, people would consider it a date.

The uhmm more old fashion people would consider it a meeting.

Technically a date.is a meeting of two people, possibly with the intention of getting to know each other romantically...or sometimes some people don't have anybody to go to a formal party and they say 'would you be my date for this evening and accompany me to ..etc..etc".

Sometimes I'm confused whether many of the 'dinners' 'drinks' 'walks' I had before were just hangin' out or was I on a date...*shrug*
 
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I viewed the first meet I had as a date I guess? We had lunch at a casual sit down restaraunt, (not panda express, but that would have been ok too) talked for a couple of hours, he asked if I had plans for the rest of the day, did I want to catch a movie, etc. It was a nice day. We spent about 6-7 hours together.
Of course he poofed on me after that,but that was probably because I asked if he wanted to split the bill
 
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IMO if time spent together is 1 hour or less and each pay their own tab, it is a meeting. If it lasts more than one hour and one person offers to pay for the other's tab, it is a date.
 
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For me there is a difference between a "meeting" and a "date". I will always have a first meeting just to talk and see if there is any sparks there for either one of us.

I make this very clear with any potential match during initial communications. I will also make clear that face to face talking works best for me. Phone calls are ok, but should be limited until after we meet.

I am one who reads people and this also helps keep those emotions in check by not trying to fill in blanks with some picture of a person you have not met yet.

If we decide there is some level of mutual interest, then we can talk about a date and see what happens. Clear communication is really not that hard.
 
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