RobbyT15 is offline RobbyT15 Post #1  November 11,2009, 11:11pm
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For the past year or so I've been unable to find someone who seems to be interested in me. If I meet someone we usually go out once and I never hear from her again, even though she said that she would like to go out again and that I should call her, but when I do, I always get a voice mail and when I leave a message I never get a call back. Sure I'm a very quiet and reserved individual and I keep to myself alot, but is that that much of a put off?

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, is there a reason females do that? And is there hope for someone who isn't outgoing and doesn't like to throw it all out there at the first meeting?
 
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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #2  November 12,2009, 12:49am
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we'll put it down to they having poor taste. But really, I've no idea. I do have a suggestion. After 1st date you'e not going to ask em out again. Okay, got that. Good. Next you going to plan to do something fab. Eg, go fairey penguin spotting, look for a vacume cleaner, head off to the local at festival, based ball game what ever. Maybe go witha few mates, your brother, any children you may have. Doesn't matter which. Next you contact subject of romantic interst and tell her that you're going whatever next when ever, and you be please if she joined in. But she has to get back to you by the next day, as you don't want to waste the tickets. Day say or even imply that some other women is going. She create that whole specte in her own mind without your help.

If she don't bite, wait a week or too and then send an e-mail, with group shot of you, mates, mysteiius woman or two with the fary penguins.

I won't say it works every time; well almost.

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Explain what you define as quiet and reserved? Stereotypically woman prefer conversation. If you learn to ask questions that show interest in her, she will will typically respond with eager interest about herself and hopefully reciprocate interest questions back to you. You need to be able to put her on a pedastool, and be open and honest. If you share openly then she will see you as being very trustworthy. I guess in the end you would need to share more information to get the proper advice on your issue.
 
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I think dating online is way harder than meeting someone and going out. Are these online women...because in life you meet, may know someone through friends less pressure. Online people expect to meet the most amazing gorgeous person ever and its a tough bill to fill. The only reason women say call me and don't answer is it's awkward to reject someone to their face. They are not being mean on purpose just trying to not feel uncomfortable. Are you really interested in all these women you go out with? I would say one out of 15 maybe but do you ask every one out for another date?
 
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If you are meeting these women online, I would say review your profile and make sure it's an accurate description of yourself. If you are reserved and quite, say so on your profile so that you attract women that like this quality in a guy. However, if by reserved and quite you don't offer good conversation on a date, then this could be a problem for any woman you date. Take a look at yourself and what you bring to the table for your dates, maybe some things could use some tweaking on your end. Perhaps you could try to be more conversational etc?

Also, I agree with one of the other posts that meeting women online always sets different expectations than meeting in person. You might be better off joining groups on meetup.com or something where you interact with people in person instead of just reviewing profiles and having a bunch of first dates.
 
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Robby, sorry to hear about your lack of success. Sadly, being very reserved and quiet is not what women like in a man. Think about it, a relationship with a woman is a kind of friendship- and you won't make friends by being quiet and reserved and keeping yourself to yourself:-

"Sure I'm a very quiet and reserved individual and I keep to myself alot, but is that that much of a put off?"

I'm afraid it is a put off, because it is nearly always indicative of deeper problems. The way to overcome this is not by focusing on the women who don't want a second date, but by focusing on yourself. Deal with whatever it is that makes you introvert, quiet and keeps yourself to yourself. That could be drepression, poor self image etc that leads to the introversion and lack of conversation abillity with women.

You need to deal with these bigger problems, then you will naturally become more confident and outgoing and women will be more attracted to you. I know about this as I had to deal with something similar in my teens and 20's.
 
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