How Do You Know When it's Love?


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dnnmllr is offline dnnmllr Post #51  November 13,2009, 12:30pm
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Mr_Right wrote :
How do you know when it's love?

You just know. I know that's not much of a answer, but you just do.

You know you're in love when you're with someone who respects you as much as you do them.

You know you're in love when you think about them all the time.

You know you're in love when you help each other grow as a person.

You know you're in love when you are committed to each other.

You know you're in love when there is chemistry and attraction between the two of you.

You know you're in love when you're willing to make sacrifices for the other person.

You know you're in love when the other person makes you happy, and you make them happy.

You know you're in love when you trust your partner and they trust you.

You know you're in love when you don't sweat the small stuff and don't let that interfere with your relationship.

Love grows. Love heals. Love is all-encompassing. Love is unselfish.

This is only a small fraction of how love feels. Sometimes, you just know.
.....and *snip*Sometimes, you just know.*snip*
 
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zal is offline zal Post #52  November 13,2009, 2:23pm
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[QUOTE=cp30;795130]JayJay....how do you recognize it? For me, I tend to recognize it when I start going crazy...(it's uncomfortable, actually)./QUOTE]

For me, the "going crazy" part is not love, it's infatuation (or, better, lust). There's no "craziness" in love. I can't explain the feeling, but I know it feels better to be in love than to not be in love. In answer to your question CP (despite the question being directed at JayJay) I can't explain how I recognize it, I just do. Love's a funny thing though because it's completely internal. It's also something that can't be turned on or off, which can lead to many unpleasant situations. More often than not, I think when we love someone we expect that love to be reciprocated and are hurt and/or angry when the object of our affections doesn't feel the same way. The magic is finding someone who DOES feel the same way. Then commitment, respect and the rest comes naturally.
 
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Becky2 is offline Becky2 Post #53  November 17,2009, 12:25am
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I figure I've been around long enough to know the difference between love and the other emotions that flood through you when you meet someone new and wonder if they are "the one". I didn't find "the one" until I was 54 but I had certainly tried with many others and in fact this has been my third marriage. I tell people "finally, I got it right". There are a couple of things that I tell my single friends (of both sexes) to look for. Firstly. It should be EASY! When you meet the person you will spend the rest of your (or their) life with that's the thing that strikes you first. You shouldn't have to change yourself or accept (or excuse) things in another person that you don't enjoy or agree with. Secondly it should be FUN! I describe the feeling of being with that person as feeling "fizzy" inside. Every day should be an adventure. Every activity a joy. I often feel like standing somewhere and jumping up and down with joy. I've heard from others that this is indeed the case when you are really with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Lastly it should be MUTUAL! You can't be doing this on your own and you can't make someone feel something that they don't. It is my true belief that if you have these three things then you have that rarest of things - and it is rare - you have love.

Well that's my experience anyway.
 
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Becky2 wrote :
Secondly it should be FUN! I describe the feeling of being with that person as feeling "fizzy" inside. Every day should be an adventure. Every activity a joy. I often feel like standing somewhere and jumping up and down with joy. I've heard from others that this is indeed the case when you are really with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I love the word fizzy! That's a wonderful description!

Unfortunately, sometimes the fizz is lost and the relationship goes flat.
 
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MelinCali wrote :
I love the word fizzy! That's a wonderful description!

Unfortunately, sometimes the fizz is lost and the relationship goes flat.
Plus soda is bad for you. It gives you ulcers and heartburn!
Last edited by PY_2; November 17,2009 at 10:24am. Reason: so is dating lol
 
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bruce607 is offline bruce607 Post #56  November 18,2009, 9:28am
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Ok so i like this idea of Love. If your like me Love is not so hard to fall into. I wear my heart on my sleeve. But your still in control of the rest. Trust Commitment and Communication are all different aspects of a relationship. Those you need to have before you can really kick it off. Love comes when it comes. You will know you will be confused. You will feel things in ways you cant explain. Time will tell you if your in love or not.
 
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Layla817 is offline Layla817 Post #57  November 24,2009, 11:44am
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When you are truly in love, you don't wonder or ask. You both simply KNOW.
 
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