how can you tell if someone is lying?


Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Andrea8823 is offline Andrea8823 Post #1  November 11,2009, 2:03pm
Andrea8823's Avatar

hates working all weekend

Quick Study

Joined: Jul 2009

Posts: 128

See profile

I've already posted a couple different topics related to this guy I've been talking to. But to those of you who haven't read them, I've been talking to a guy from eHarmony for the last week and a half. For the first week, we talked everyday, whether it was through texting or online. We usually alternated who would text first each day (I'd text first monday, he'd text first tuesday)

We talked for like 5 hours through texts/aol instant messenger on Sunday nite... And I thought it went really well. He ended up saying that he lost track of time when it got to be after midnight, cause he had to wake up in less than 6 hours.

Monday rolls around, and I don't hear from him, nor does he go online. I anticipate a text Tuesday but it gets to be like 9 at night and still no word from him. I talk to my friend about it, saying that I don't want to come off as clingy/needy/annoying, so I won't text him anymore. My friend said, I dont think one text in 2 days is annoying. So I decided to text him, saying, "hey how's it going".

He didn't respond all nite, or sign online. I was trying to not take it personally, but it's sort of hard. When I woke up this morning, I got a text that he sent at 7 am saying, "hey I'm alright, just been sick. how are you?"

I responded back and I haven't heard back yet. I just don't know how to tell if he was telling the truth or if he was lying so he could avoid me more easily. I guess there's no way of knowing through a text message? Or is there?

We have plans to hangout Sunday; I just hope he doesn't bail.

Any input?
 
  Reply With Quote
trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #2  November 11,2009, 2:15pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

Virtuoso

Joined: Aug 2009

London

Posts: 4,703

See profile

He could be lying but he doesn't have to avoid you. He doesn't know you.

Take a deep breath. Relax.

I think your expectations are too rigid. If he doesn't contact you exactly how and when you imagine he should then your instinct is immediately to distrust him.

I think the fly in your ointment at the moment is your insecurity.
 
  Reply With Quote
CapnCrunch23 is offline CapnCrunch23 Post #3  November 11,2009, 2:21pm

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 1,410

See profile

The text messages that arrive on even numbered times (4:24) means he is lying and the odd ones (3:35) means he is telling the truth!

Andrea!! You are overthinking this. You can't deterime a person level of interest by weather or not they signed in or not or what time they send a txt msg..

Just be patient and relax a little, see what happens on Sunday. Meanwhile put your focus somewheres else or better yet on somebody else.. keep your mind busy
Last edited by CapnCrunch23; November 11,2009 at 2:33pm.
 
  Reply With Quote
timeless2 is offline timeless2 Post #4  November 11,2009, 2:34pm
timeless2's Avatar

wants you to have a Hippo Gnu Eel!

Virtuoso

Joined: Dec 2008

Philliesland

Posts: 3,866

See profile

Usually I know they're lying cause the machine tells me so. Then I usually use the other machine.......

BTW, please don't drive yourself crazy.
 
  Reply With Quote
littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #5  November 11,2009, 2:40pm
littlebluemon…'s Avatar

Unregistered

Joined: Jul 2008

Posts: 13,649

See profile

timeless2 wrote :
Usually I know they're lying cause the machine tells me so. Then I usually use the other machine.......

BTW, please don't drive yourself crazy.
No. There are enough of us crazies here already.

Remember that right now this is not a guy in your life. This is a guy in your computer (or on your phone). He may or may not be real. He may or may not be nice. He may or may not be a liar.

You, however, need to let him be whatever he is and then evaluate whether or not he belongs in your life by what he does over the long term.
 
  Reply With Quote
flowerchild66 is offline flowerchild66 Post #6  November 11,2009, 2:42pm
flowerchild66's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 336

See profile

FWIW, waaaay too much communication and intensity for someone you haven't met yet, especially given the time frame. (only 10 days?)

Chill out, and try not to invest emotionally until you've known each other awhile,face to face.
 
  Reply With Quote
indigirl1975 is offline indigirl1975 Post #7  November 11,2009, 3:27pm
indigirl1975's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Apr 2008

Indiana

Posts: 329

See profile

He may of just lost interest. Just send him a text saying saying you just want to touch base about Sunday and see what he says. If he doesn't reply to that one he just is not interested in meeting you, and that is fine it is not personal he doesn't know you.
 
  Reply With Quote
Lilycat is offline Lilycat Post #8  November 11,2009, 3:48pm
Lilycat's Avatar

Just been lurking for a while....... but back again lol.

Pacesetter

Joined: Nov 2009

Canada

Posts: 463

See profile

Calm down, relax, breathe.......

Now to address the question - don't worry about it yet, too soon to tell if he is a liar or whatever, just wait until you actually meet him.

All that contact? Hey you were both participating in it, don't worry about it. Just one of the things that people do at times... mind you don't keep up the pace unless he is responding in kind. That's when you begin to look a little odd IMHO.

Trust yourself, and trust me on this one, people tell you pretty quickly who they are after you meet them..... your job is to believe them. In doing this ignore the words thrown at you and watch carefully what they do.

None of this is real until you meet....... so give yourself a break and quit overanalyzing it.

Hope you have a good time Sunday! Asking what's up with that (texting, whatever) does not sound like a bad idea to me.

Lilycat
 
  Reply With Quote
PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #9  November 11,2009, 4:33pm

Unregistered

Joined: Oct 2009

Posts: 6,908

See profile

lol weren't you the same person who said five texts in one day is annoying? Dont you wish this guy texts you more?

Told ya it was all perspective.
Last edited by PY_2; November 11,2009 at 4:34pm. Reason: dang I'm good!
 
  Reply With Quote
Andrea8823 is offline Andrea8823 Post #10  November 11,2009, 4:38pm
Andrea8823's Avatar

hates working all weekend

Quick Study

Joined: Jul 2009

Posts: 128

See profile

PY_2 wrote :
lol weren't you the same person who said five texts in one day is annoying? Dont you wish this guy texts you more?

Told ya it was all perspective.
5 texts per day when I don't respond to any of them is annoying lol but when you're used to someone texting you it's just weird when they don't
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2


« Not wanting to deal with kids at 48 | Dating | this girl I like at work »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
My ex is lying on dating sites! Big_Hearted About You 13 March 11,2010 6:34pm
Ladies, do you automatically assume he is lying? MarkInAustin Dating 39 December 29,2009 11:10pm
When Ex Is Lying on Her Profile TheEx Dating 19 October 16,2009 11:28am
Is he lying joy2bewit Relationships 12 October 8,2009 8:47pm
Is he lying joy2bewit Ask a Dating Expert 8 October 7,2009 4:01am

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Ingy - I'm not sure what you're reading, but I've consistently said he was totally my type. Yes, I have said he wasn't a looker, but I have also said I was relatively certain I would warm to him ... ” –  Carole1520

Join the “My first "Matchmaker" date” discussion

“OP, do you have celiac disease? If not, I hate to burst your bubble but there's no health benefit to giving up gluten. Gluten is problematic only to people who have reactions to it, and you'd know ... ” –  jimmyh452

Join the “Living Without....” discussion

“ Most folks don't want to see matches that don't fit within their preferences. I know I didn't. That's why they set their preferences! ” –  FairOne

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Yeah, this article was pretty disgusting. Not surprising how many women try to justify such tactics. The woman in the article clearly cares more about getting married than about who she marries. A ... ” –  jimmyh452

Join the “How to Get the Proposal You Want...Without Asking For It” discussion

“LOL....Yet another thread started by a "newbie" who is gone after one post just to rile up the community.....” –  Ingytravel

Join the “who pays?” discussion

“ I did try to follow a comic book series once. It was called Starfire and she had a costume change due to her outfit being caught on a nail. It was similar to something that people found ... ” –  harnomygirl

Join the “Avengers” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 2:52pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0