The Secret to Dating Success

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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #1  November 11,2009, 3:25am
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to true, you d have a lot to offer!
but we are also wise to have a sence of who we are
 
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pegoman is offline pegoman Post #2  November 14,2009, 2:35am
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In my experience I think for men it's more important what they think about themselves than how they look.
 
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Balmung6 is offline Balmung6 Post #3  November 18,2009, 6:09pm
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Truthfully i find it hard to tell myself positive things like this - after a rather nasty breakup a few years back i had a negative mantra of thoughts for about 3 1/2 years - kinda becomes built in after awhile.
 
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Bobzeaux is offline Bobzeaux Post #4  November 19,2009, 1:12pm
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Okay, so what does thinking your awesome have to do with attracting the opposite sex?  I KNOW what a great guy I am.  That doesn't make the women I meet any more available or interested. ;(
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #5  November 19,2009, 1:33pm

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Gotta be that 'confidence' carp again lol.
 
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claire09 is offline claire09 Post #6  November 20,2009, 8:22am
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I have read article upon article, have read through many posts, talked to many friends about how to be better at dating, not looking too eager, not saying the wrong thing, at the wrong time, in the wrong way and quite frankly I am SICK OF IT!!! I have come to a conclusion. "To Thine own self be true."

I understand Eharmony wants to encourage its members to get better at dating, they advertise books by people professing to "help you keep a man, or get a man, or know why he didn't call". But, at the end of the day its about being true to whomever you are in any situation.

Eharmony may advise as to what may work in the short run, and some of our dating skills do need adjustment. However, what I am seeing is a trend for everyone out here to somehow change themselves to make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex.

Well, in the long run when we send our representatives away and the real person shows up, who will the other partner see?

My Philosophy is no offense to Eharmony or anyone out here but I am going to be me. I will call when I want to call, say what I want to say, and be how I want to be and if that man on the other end doesn't get it, then he doesn't get it. That may turn off a few guys who have bought into this fake world called dating. But, when they are gone the real men will be standing and thats who I want.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #7  November 20,2009, 2:58pm
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claire09 wrote :
I have come to a conclusion. "To Thine own self be true."
Congratulations. You may stay.

And if you do, you'lll notice that nobody here seems to be getting their advice or their personality from these awful books or eH's awful "how to date" articles.
 
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RICHARD GALLEGOS is offline RICHARD GALLEGOS Post #8  November 21,2009, 4:09pm
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BEING YOURSELF  AND HONEST.
 
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loveinlititz is offline loveinlititz Post #9  January 30,2010, 9:11pm
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We all have disabilities.  When do I tell someone that I wear glasses?  That I need a dictionary to spell a word right?  That I have temper tantrums, or have an annoying tic, or take the bus cause I'd rather not drive.
Anyone with maturity will approach your disability in the same way we usually approach the examples I just mentioned.  We are certainly not expected to bare our flaws on the first encounter (in fact we are advised not to) so why should you reveal your "disability" immediately?
It is a part of who you are and you do not need to be ashamed of it.  Anyone worth your attention will see it this way as well.
Good luck!
 
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