Annnnne is offline Annnnne Post #1  November 9,2009, 10:02pm
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Had what I thought was a fantastic date a few days ago. It went much, much longer than most initial dates do. And I have not heard from him!!!

I am just so used to guys always calling me/asking me out again after a night thats not half as great as this one was. I work in an industry where knowing how to read people is very important and I'm pretty good at it--so I KNOW he was having a good time. Why would someone spend hours out with you, act like they were having a great time and then never follow up? If I am not into someone, even if they are interesting, I call it a night early.

Thanks for letting me vent.
 
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lil_lamb is offline lil_lamb Post #2  November 9,2009, 10:37pm
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long initial dates are always bad after highschool/college. the timing is wrong for adults.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #3  November 10,2009, 4:02am
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It was long because both of you were having fun and enjoying each other's company at that moment. However when he went home and digested everything he's learned about you, he decided that he is not into you after all and that's that. Nothing weird or deceptive about it.
 
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I agree! He had fun but something may have turned him off and the longer the date the more chances there are of that happening.
 
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tbesq is offline tbesq Post #5  November 10,2009, 4:17am
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This has happened to all of us....but give it time, there could be any number of reasons he hasn't asked you for a second date.
 
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Hey OP,

You say you are good at reading people, but apparently read this guy incorrectly.

You obviously didn't KNOW he was having a good time. Call him.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
It was long because both of you were having fun and enjoying each other's company at that moment. However when he went home and digested everything he's learned about you, he decided that he is not into you after all and that's that. Nothing weird or deceptive about it.
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You said it was just a few days ago so he may still call. Did you follow up after the date to say you had a good time? I would say to give it a week and if you haven't heard from him then he's not interested but if it hasn't been a week yet since your date, he may still call and just be busy at the moment or following "the rules".
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #9  November 10,2009, 6:45am

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Drop him a follow up note!

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clearlyoblique is offline clearlyoblique Post #10  November 10,2009, 7:11am
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I've had long dates where I was jovial, smiling ...

And the whole time, I was trying to figure out if I really felt attracted to him, if I were interested *enough* in him.

A first date is tricky. I usually have a second and make some sort of call. Anyone can be nervous ... or not themselves for a variety of reasons.

But I also email or leave a voice mail for the guy and thank him for the date.

After that? It's just online dating, my darlin'. It's just the way we roll.
 
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