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Simone6067 is offline Simone6067 Post #1  November 9,2009, 4:04pm
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Ok, I'll be direct.....is there ever any reason at all for a guy to sneak out while you're sleeping?

We'd been out several times, getting along great, and I really liked him. Met his friends, and they told me how hung up he was on me, that they've never seen him like this. Didn't feel the chemistry until this last date, when he really relaxed, opened up, and seemed like he was really being himself. He really stole my heart. It was our "first time", and he was pretty nervous, but it was sweet and we were both relaxed and peaceful afterwards. Next thing I know, its 4am and I'm all alone.

I know he felt awkward, because he's a shy guy (I'm not a shy girl), and we both had been drinking, but we're also both adults, and I let him know that I was happy to be with him and be close to him. Like I said, it was sweet and I thought he felt it. I had no complaints! I responded..........

It really surprised me. He had been 100% gentleman, classy, and I felt completely safe with him. I have never had a gay-dar, but I do have a very well-functioning play-dar, and can spot a player in 15 seconds, and have never been wrong. I just don't feel in my heart that this guy was a player, but its possible that one finally got past me. Honestly? I think he felt inadequate.

For many reasons, I know its not my looks, my figure, my breath, my technique, etc. but like I said, even if it was, we were past that, and both knew what we were getting into. But I'm a new dater, and I have no clue what could have been going on in his head. I'm really trying to figure this one out.

BTW, the next morning, his text said that he didn't want to wake me....then he said he has really fallen for me and wants to see me again.....

Anyone?....Anyone?.........
 
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Uh, in the real world people have jobs and have to get to them? May be he tends to start work early and is used to waking up much earlier than you.

Personally I only sleep with a woman when I do not have to go to work the next morning.

As long as the communication is continuing, I would let this develop and see how it goes.

If you want him staying until into the morning / next day, just ask. Guys are usually fine with clear, specific requests.
 
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I have never had a gay-dar, but I do have a very well-functioning play-dar, and can spot a player in 15 seconds, and have never been wrong.

Honestly? I think he felt inadequate.

But I'm a new dater, and I have no clue what could have been going on in his head.

Hi, I have a "jail-bait-dar," and can find an easy mark. (Kidding!)

Honestly? I think this is an odd combination of presumption and don't-know-what-I'm-doing.

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Uh, in the real world, I also would not be asking this question if I did not think that was a possibility. But in this case, I know that it was not.....seeing as this was a Saturday night, and had already been told he had nothing going on the next day...... thanks!
 
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He enjoyed the sex, but your ego was more then he wanted to deal with for the moment. You might also snore and probably has a few other annoying habits as well.

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D_Lion wrote :
Hi, I have a "jail-bait-dar," and can find an easy mark. (Kidding!)

Honestly? I think this is an odd combination of presumption and don't-know-what-I'm-doing.

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Cute.....but I think he freaked out.......first time for both of us after ending long-term committed relationships..........
 
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Uh, in the real world, I also would not be asking this question if I did not think that was a possibility. But in this case, I know that it was not.....seeing as this was a Saturday night, and had already been told he had nothing going on the next day...... thanks!

When I conducted most of the dating experience I post about, I was getting up at 4:40 for work and maintained that schedule on the weekends.

Still, there is no conclusive sign of anything; so why not measure and analyze the facts and then make decisions therefrom?
 
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Why not go by what he wrote in the text?

Is there a reason you think it may be something else?
 
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Simone6067 wrote :
Cute...

Did I mention I am good in bed!
 
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