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nightling is offline nightling Post #21  November 8,2009, 6:43pm
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lm124 wrote :
Is it just me or is this entire thread a bit confusing?
Maybe ... but only because you missed out on the thread that spawned the bait.
 
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oh dear Dlion, I saw your point, I got it. It doesn't apply. I have plenty of success without asking me out
 
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lm124 wrote :
Is it just me or is this entire thread a bit confusing?
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Would you like a personal lesson?
nightling wrote :
Maybe ... but only because you missed out on the thread that spawned the bait.
And also because we are sometimes inclined to silliness. Do not take lessons from the Frog. He will only confuse you more with his warped statistics.
 
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nightling wrote :
I am just going to repost what I've already said about it elsewhere.

Same as before ... as before ... as before ... initiating gets you additional chances you otherwise would not have had.

Even if your belief is correct (which I don't personally believe), that is still more chances to succeed.

In any case, I think the pessimistic Ladies overstate the significance of who started. Once you're gettig to know each other, it's too far gone to play any role at all.
 
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oh dear Dlion

Is this an offer of something?
 
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you have become so predictable, I even knew you would comment on only that part of my post...
 
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nightling wrote :
I am just going to repost what I've already said about it elsewhere.
I do think there's some truth to your and Peg's observations. IRL men seem to think that showing assertive interest (i.e. asking them out) equates to you being easy or desperate. I don't worry about the rejection. I hate like hell having to waste my time giving some dope a lesson in how wicked accurate I am at removing carp from my life.

If a man is showing signs of genuine interest...chatting me up in a store, starting a conversation at an art gallery or a bookstore, I would feel fine suggesting continuing the talk over coffee. I would never do so with someone who was just flirting.
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D_Lion wrote :
Same as before ... as before ... as before ... initiating gets you additional chances you otherwise would not have had.

Even if your belief is correct (which I don't personally believe), that is still more chances to succeed.

In any case, I think the pessimistic Ladies overstate the significance of who started. Once you're gettig to know each other, it's too far gone to play any role at all.
I don't need additional chances at one-night stands.

I'm sorry it doesn't work the way you want it to in your ivory tower.
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Where do you get this idea?

Why do you think a man who askes you is any different than a man you asked? Some kind of magic?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Where do you get this idea?

Why do you think a man who askes you is any different than a man you asked? Some kind of magic?
I think it has already been adequately explained that it comes from my own experiences in what happens to a woman who tries it.
 
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