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peg099 is offline peg099 Post #271  November 13,2009, 2:18pm
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
What does that say to you about women who ask men out? Seems them asking guys out does nothing to change any time frame. So why would guys get the impression these women were easy? I am going with sour grapes and dudes have never been asked. Any thoughts?
You see, there are two people involved in the interaction. The woman and the guy.

The time frame does not change in my mind.

But that doesn't mean his perception of the time frame is the same regardless of who does the asking. He can't read my mind to know what my time frame is. He doesn't know me well enough to know what my time frame is. So chances that he will be correct are not that high.

Anyway, you guys have done a great job in convincing me I shouldn't ask guys out anymore.

Bottom line is that if asking guys out is working for you and working on the types of guys you want to date, carry on. But since it doesn't seem to work with the types of guys I'm interested in having a relationship with, I won't be using this approach any more. Simple.
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LizziePooh wrote :
Will someone please just ask him out already??
He's all yours
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #273  November 13,2009, 2:55pm

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peg099 wrote :
Please do not put words in my mouth. I never said any such thing.

Unless by 'definite idea of when they may have sex' you mean 'when I know I like the guy enough' - in other words, when I feel the time is right. Which seems to be your standard as well.
That is exactly what I meant. I was trying to paraphrase since the theme seems to be the same but the words a bit different. Sorry if I confused you.
 
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Bottom line is that if asking guys out is working for you and working on the types of guys you want to date, carry on. But since it doesn't seem to work with the types of guys I'm interested in having a relationship with, I won't be using this approach any more. Simple.
Perfect point. No one answer works for everyone.
 
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Will someone please just ask him out already??
Only if he agrees to pay.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
That is exactly what I meant. I was trying to paraphrase since the theme seems to be the same but the words a bit different. Sorry if I confused you.
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