IslandGrrl503 is offline IslandGrrl503 Post #1  November 8,2009, 1:02pm
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Hi, I have had several men talk about what they like to see a woman wearing that looks sexy, tell me I look sexy, and make a lot of sexual innuendos. Is this just flirting or is this disrespectful? I'm looking for a high-quality guy in search of a long-term relationship, not a quick roll in the sack. It really feels like I'm viewed as a piece of "meat". Keep in mind, I typically have NEVER met these guys or have been on 1-2 dates. I'm highly intellligent (MBA/CPA), professional and grew up in a respectful household, enjoy sex, but shoot, you never get a 2nd chance to make a 1st impression! I look forward to hearing from you. Thanks! --IslandGrrl
 
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kiki87042 is offline kiki87042 Post #2  November 8,2009, 5:53pm
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Welcome to the world of "Professional matchmaking" on eH! UGH!
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #3  November 8,2009, 5:58pm
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These men are announcing their interests (or seeking to avoid overly uptight, traditional, or conservative women), and in so doing giving their matches the chance to evaluate them and reply accordingly.

There is no reason to continue to communicate with them, given this difference in personal taste.

Personally I think that attraction and relationship potential proceed independantly of each other, with both being necessary to get to any sort of commitment.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #4  November 8,2009, 6:07pm
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Please clarify whether the men in question were on eH, or some other dating site, or live and in person, or what.
 
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A bunch of innuendos when I am in the "getting to know you" stage usually ends up coming across a little creepy. Just sayin...
 
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Being a brand new poster, I have to throw my two cents in on this one.

I am always looking for the professional woman that is beyond a lot of the party nonsense. Though it seems these young women often marry early and are not available. The party girl is only going to be so rewarding. It just seems like it is hard to meet quality people. I have not subscribed to eharmony, but I did not fair very well on the free communication weekends. If you ever find the answer let me know.
 
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FruitaBu wrote :
A bunch of innuendos when I am in the "getting to know you" stage usually ends up coming across a little creepy. Just sayin...
Can't say as I have ever had that problem but I would have to agree with you.
 
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Like melman I would like some more information as to where / how you are communicating with these guys. Also if it via an internet dating site what you are wearing in your photos or if in person what you are wearing.

If it is via a dating site and your photo is in an itsy bitsy, teeny weeny yellow polka dot bikini then that could be what is prompting the comments. If you are dressed in business attire then these comments would be creepy. If you are getting these in person at the beach then they are flirting with you.
 
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Very good point from Great Guy.
 
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They ask and tell what they'd like to see you wear?! Run away, run away. I have to agree with the men on this one... Watch what kind of pics you post or exchange.

I dress a certain way and no matter what someone might request or would 'hope' to see, I'm not one to placate. I have a certain style. That's what I feel comfortable with, what fits my personality. If you don't like it or are looking for something else... Please move on. Don't be looking to change a person. I don't change my personality for a man.
 
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