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ThePriestess wrote :
Well, there aren't a lot of guys under 6" tall, but you might find some of them on this site!
Given that the average height of men is 5'10", over half the male population would qualify.
- November 7th, 2009, 07:37 pm
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ThePriestess wrote :
Am waiting for some hottie to volunteer ... then I shall distract her!
With cookies?
- November 7th, 2009, 07:38 pm
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Better!
- November 7th, 2009, 07:43 pm
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Better!
You must have chocolate, then.
- November 7th, 2009, 07:51 pm
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I thought there were cookies here. : (
I like cookies
- November 7th, 2009, 09:05 pm
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kneo24 wrote :
Points 1, 3, 4, and 6 shouldn't be too hard find at that age range. 5 and 7 are potential deal breakers. It can and will limit your choices. Choice 3? Seriously?

Is it absolutely necessary that someone loves god? What if they were some other religion that worships a different deity but met the rest of your qualities? What if they were agnostic? Atheist? If you limit your choices based around a religion and are having a hard time finding someone, this tells me two things:

1. Is that your faith is very important to you and you probably spend a great deal of spare time involved with your church.
2. This tells me that there are no good single men in your church or other churches in you area that meet the rest of your criteria? - Why is that?

With the height, how "petite"? Under 5'? Under 4'? Why is the contrast in height such an issue for you?

Why is the "traditional" upbringing so important? Do you even know what that entails? What most people call the "traditional" upbringing isn't actually traditional these days. So how do you define it? And furthermore, do you really feel that if someone wasn't brought up that way that they couldn't live the lifestyle that you want to live?

Sometimes you need to sit back and seriously evaluate yourself.
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It is important when looking for a long-term partner to find someone whose values are well aligned with our own. In fact, similar values are probably the most important criteria for long-term success.

If TomatoSauce has specific religious beliefs and 'traditional' values, then it is wise for her to seek someone who is like-minded. And while those values may seem 'odd' to someone who doesn't share them, a man who has those values would probably be equally insistent on finding someone traditional who holds the same religious convictions.
Peg I am glad that I read a little further in the thread and saw that you had replied to kneo24's post. Your reply is considerably more polite than the one that I would have written.
- November 7th, 2009, 09:11 pm
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TomatoSauce wrote :
Hi all,
I have given up dating for years now..but good intention friends are so eager to match me up with guys. They say someone like me shouldn't be single.
They keep telling me i mustn't be picky...

But i am not picky.
All i am asking for is
- a decent kind hearted
- traditional upbringing
- in his mid 30's-mid 40
- hold a decent job that support himself and his family
- love God
- homely person
- not more than 6" (as i am really petite).

But believe me, i have search for this guy for 40yr still i never manage to come close to someone that i could fall in love with...

Is there something wrong with my criteria ? Love to hear some thoughts on it..especially the guys view on it...thank you
D_Lion wrote :
Not necessarily anything wrong with any criteria - so long as you accept that every screen you impose is ruling out some portion of people, there will be fewer left.

It can be hard when you want rare combinations of attributes, which doesn't seem to apply to anything you've listed.

Last, do you bring to the table the qualities you're seeking? If so, then it is just a matter of time and solid strategy to find people suitable.
I agree with D_Lion and I would recommend that you read the book How to Get a Date Worth Keeping by Dr. Henry Cloud. It addresses you situation and question directly and may give you some answers and insights.

However, there is an implication that you really are not interested in dating or finding someone with whom to build a long term relationship. You indicate that you are only dating because your friends think that you should. That is no reason to date at all.
- November 7th, 2009, 09:18 pm
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You must have chocolate, then.
BETTER!
- November 7th, 2009, 09:58 pm
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The qualities your searching for definetely do not sound picky to me. I'm just curious as to one: why did you specifically list "homely person"? I'm just curious.Most people are looking for as hot as they can get.
- November 7th, 2009, 10:23 pm
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May have meant homey. It's slang in the south for someone who is warm and easy to relate to.
- November 7th, 2009, 11:03 pm
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