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I got this great match; his profile is great but he's only 5'0". I am 5'5" and love wearing heels. I fall in love after I get to know the person, but I have a hard time getting past height. Is this shallow?
- May 12th, 2008, 03:06 pm
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The reality of finding someone in life who will commit to you and put their heart and soul into a relationship is very rare in life. As time passes and we become scarred with the battles of life storms, you begin to come to appreciate the rareness of finding someone, you come to realizea person's stature, their eye color or hair or lack of it, even the scars lifes us with, become much less important, and the matters of the heart come to the forefront....

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- May 12th, 2008, 03:14 pm
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It's one of those borderline shallow things to me. (anything that would bother me CAN'T be shallow) While I really sympathize with him (it must be horribly frustrating) butyou feel how you feel. I was going to tell you that I am dating a woman taller than me, when she has heels on, but I would have a problem with that much difference. I think we're both probably shallow.
- May 12th, 2008, 03:17 pm
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joy2, wrote :
I got this great match; his profile is great but he's only 5'0". I am 5'5" and love wearing heels. I fall in love after I get to know the person, but I have a hard time getting past height. Is this shallow?
Shallow? Yes. But if you can't get past it, you can't get past it - just move on. Personally, I've always wanted to date a woman that was taller than I am, but I don't think I ever have (none were noticably taller). Just out of curiosity, what makes the height difference so unappealing to you?
- May 12th, 2008, 03:22 pm
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I got this great match; his profile is great but he's only 5'0". I am 5'5" and love wearing heels. I fall in love after I get to know the person, but I have a hard time getting past height. Is this shallow?
Shallow? Yes. But if you can't get past it, you can't get past it - just move on. Personally, I've always wanted to date a woman that was taller than I am, but I don't think I ever have (none were noticably taller). Just out of curiosity, what makes the height difference so unappealing to you?
I like to be able to look up to my guy.(physical sense) And I just have this thing where I think the man should be bigger than the woman. (stupid) I once dated a guy the same height and weight as me; but that was after I got to know him. And once I did I discovered that he was manlier then 6 ft men. I'm going to go for it and see what happens. He list confidence as one of his attributes.

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- May 12th, 2008, 03:28 pm
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joy2 wrote :
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joy2, wrote :
I got this great match; his profile is great but he's only 5'0". I am 5'5" and love wearing heels. I fall in love after I get to know the person, but I have a hard time getting past height. Is this shallow?
Shallow? Yes. But if you can't get past it, you can't get past it - just move on. Personally, I've always wanted to date a woman that was taller than I am, but I don't think I ever have (none were noticably taller). Just out of curiosity, what makes the height difference so unappealing to you?
I like to be able to look up to my guy.(physical sense) And I just have this thing where I think the man should be bigger than the woman. (stupid) I once dated a guy the same height and weight as me; but that was after I got to know him. And once I did I discovered that he was manlier then 6 ft men. I'm going to go for it and see what happens. He list confidence as one of his attributes.

thanks!!
I do think its best to at least meet him in person. If he does have a strong manly presense, you probably would not make a big deal of his height.
- May 12th, 2008, 03:59 pm
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Hahahahaha.

This is great. He is seriously only 5 Feet tall. geeze, I figure he would be maybe 5'8" or something on here. It's Ok to be and admit you are shallow. Girls are and guys are. The only ones who aren't are ugly people for obvious reasons.



Well, the good thing abnout this is there is a very good chance you would be the only person he is communicating with as most girls, even the ugly ones won't talk to this guy. Geeze, I consider 5'5" short for a girl and you are 5 inches taller than him.



I am one of the lucky ones when it comes to this department as I am 6'5" but come on, 5 feet. I think you know the answer to this one unless you are as desperate as I have a feeling he i.



I remember one girl I was talking too. This girl was absolutely hot as hell and she was 5'10" and she would constantly bitch and laugh that she always got matched up with guys that were between 5'6" and 5'8". and yes, as soon as she saw that, she clolsed them. You know why? Because she was hot and could afford to do that.

Isn't 5 feet tall midget area? Has to be close
- May 12th, 2008, 04:08 pm
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joy2, wrote :
I got this great match; his profile is great but he's only 5'0". I am 5'5" and love wearing heels. I fall in love after I get to know the person, but I have a hard time getting past height. Is this shallow?
Shallow? Yes. But if you can't get past it, you can't get past it - just move on. Personally, I've always wanted to date a woman that was taller than I am, but I don't think I ever have (none were noticably taller). Just out of curiosity, what makes the height difference so unappealing to you?
I like to be able to look up to my guy.(physical sense) And I just have this thing where I think the man should be bigger than the woman. (stupid) I once dated a guy the same height and weight as me; but that was after I got to know him. And once I did I discovered that he was manlier then 6 ft men. I'm going to go for it and see what happens. He list confidence as one of his attributes.

thanks!!
I do think its best to at least meet him in person. If he does have a strong manly presense, you probably would not make a big deal of his height.
Yes, meet him in person and come back here and tell the story. Geeze, I wish you would videotape it and put it on youtube.



Ask him if he was on "Little people, Big World" on TLC. Or ask him if he is going to the National Little man's Convention in Mineapolis in July. Geeze, can't beleive I know about this but I was watching the previously mentioned show and they were talking about it. Cracks me up. A bunch of midgets wondering about a hotel trying to hook up. Now thats quality TV.
- May 12th, 2008, 04:13 pm
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I think it matters to the man, too, this height issue. In fact I know it does!

I once had a first date with a man that I met online. I am totally honest about myself and included on my profile that I am 5'8" tall. He "said" he was 5'9" but he clearly was shorter than me, and it bothered him greatly. He didn't wish to see me again because he said I was too tall for him! It was fine by me...he also lied about his photo and looked nothing like the picture he'd posted!
- May 12th, 2008, 04:27 pm
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