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Well I can't find the post now, but some other lady posted about this very problem and I definitely feel her pain. I wish I could remember where her post was to go and say so.

I'm at that stage in communication with a match where he's given me his phone number and suggested I call. This is actually how the Dr. Warren communication recommends you do it, blocking your phone number.

My problem ... what is my problem?

I'm frozen stiff solid as a cube of ice. I don't know if I can call this person, a virtual stranger. It just feels sooooo weird. I do not know this person at all. I never in this context called anyone I did not know very well before.

I do not even know if there's any chemistry here. Can't tell a damn thing from a photograph and text on a screen. What the he.ll am I doing? lol I am really not sure about this whole thing.

Not that I will poof on the guy. But I seriously feel creeped out by this whole process. I do not know what to do with myself.

*freaking out*
- November 6th, 2009, 10:24 pm
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Picture your phone in your mind.

Now, imagine that phone is connected by a little wire ... to my phone, such that when you call I wll be there, breathlessly waiting to say ... whatever it is I say.

On the bright side, it may connect you to someone else.
- November 6th, 2009, 10:26 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Picture your phone in your mind.

Now, imagine that phone is connected by a little wire ... to my phone, such that when you call I wll be there, breathlessly waiting to say ... whatever it is I say.
Well now, that is quite helpful....
- November 6th, 2009, 10:28 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Picture your phone in your mind.

Now, imagine that phone is connected by a little wire ... to my phone, such that when you call I wll be there, breathlessly waiting to say ... whatever it is I say.

On the bright side, it may connect you to someone else.
This is your idea of help?
- November 6th, 2009, 10:28 pm
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I mean, what's the worse that could happen? You transpose a number and call Strategic Missle Command by mistake? Then you say "hi" and they say, "oh carp, Russians attacking!"
- November 6th, 2009, 10:30 pm
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Not helping, D.
- November 6th, 2009, 10:32 pm
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Okay, if the whole "Sage" thing isn't working ...

You could meet just from e-mails; this way you can always have time to compose your communication.
- November 6th, 2009, 10:34 pm
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I always keep my number unlisted and worst case I change it. Okay so just as useless as the Frog's advice but still a little more on topic. Ya know I am really not the one to advise the cautious.

Seriously to be successful you will at some point have to meet them. If they are lying to you now they can keep the lie up forever or until you meet them. Just jump in.
- November 6th, 2009, 10:40 pm
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nightling wrote :
Well I can't find the post now, but some other lady posted about this very problem and I definitely feel her pain. I wish I could remember where her post was to go and say so.

I'm at that stage in communication with a match where he's given me his phone number and suggested I call. This is actually how the Dr. Warren communication recommends you do it, blocking your phone number.

My problem ... what is my problem?

I'm frozen stiff solid as a cube of ice. I don't know if I can call this person, a virtual stranger. It just feels sooooo weird. I do not know this person at all. I never in this context called anyone I did not know very well before.

I do not even know if there's any chemistry here. Can't tell a damn thing from a photograph and text on a screen. What the he.ll am I doing? lol I am really not sure about this whole thing.

Not that I will poof on the guy. But I seriously feel creeped out by this whole process. I do not know what to do with myself.

*freaking out*
First take a deep breath, he's probably just as nervous as you are now. You should email (or text) to find convenient time to talk. Try and keep it short if you can (some guys are actually phone people and will carry on a long conversation ) and maybe suggest coffee or a drink as a way to end the call if you are interested in meeting in person. Or you can send him your phone number and let him initiate the call.
- November 6th, 2009, 10:44 pm
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I'm guessing this is the other thread you were thinking of : http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...ne-number.html (FREEZE! And the only thing pointing at me is a phone number!)
- November 6th, 2009, 10:47 pm
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