Dating people that you have no emotional or physical attraction to

That last post gave me some useful information. It sounds like a big part of your problem is shyness/seriousness/introversion. A couple of comments on that:

1) Would it be possible for you to work on coming out of your shell a little? I'm not suggesting you completely change your personality, but maybe work on being a little bit more outgoing, practice chatting witn people you don't really know, etc. It gets easier with time.

2) Reconsider your dating approach. Like you, I can be somewhat reserved, especially when I don't really know the other person. What I've found is that when meeting men from dating sites, there seems to be a lot of pressure to decide whether there's 'chemistry' based on one or two brief meetings. Looking back on my dating life, I don't know that I've ever generated 'instant chemistry' (with one exception). What has tended to work better for me is to meet people that I get to know through some activity, organization, etc. That way there's less pressure, and we get to know each other as friends. No one has to make a decision right away, nor are we in any kind of dating situation 'waiting' for feelings to develop. But it provides an opportunity for various facets of my personality to shine through.

Sounds like you've gotten yourself into a situation that doesn't allow your personality to come through (i.e. not enough time to warm up to the other person.) so the guys arenb't feeling the 'spark'. And then you go out with anyone who gives you a chance because you feel you don't have options.

I think that perhaps by stepping away from the online dating sites, you're more likely to create more options for yourself - as well as taking some pressure off yoruself. Focus on doing things you enjoy, but doing them in such a way that you come into contact with new people. For example, I like to cross-country ski, and so this winter I plan on joining a cross country ski club. Not because I NEED company in order to ski, but because it will provide a relaxed opportunity to expand my social networks, which will hopefully expand the number of eligible men I meet.