What is your "price of admission"?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  November 4,2009, 5:08pm
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This was posted on one of our wedding sites and I thought I'd post it here and get a reaction from this group as well.

"So, I was watching Dan Savage the other day, and he introduced me to the concept of a relationship's price of admission. The way he explained it is that no one is perfect, and our imperfections are our price of admission. And in a relationship, the goal is to meet someone who is worth their price of admission. What I'm willing to pay might not be what someone else is willing to pay, which is how some couples end up "perfect for each other". I'm sure that a lot of you are friends with couples where the two people are great with each other, but you know that they'd drive you CRAZY if you were dating them!"

What's YOUR price of admission? And how high of a price are you willing to pay in terms of putting up with a partner's imperfections?
 
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My price of admission: Women reciprocate interest and expense.

Matters of economic equity, I don't put up with anything (tried but could not get my boss to agree to fund it.) Matters of individual uniqueness, I may check and see what happens.
 
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That's a rather bizarre analogy, is doesn't match how I view my dates at all. For one thing, there's an implication in it that there's an agreed scale of the value of various characteristic (positive or negative), and the difference is just in our tolerance for the negative. It's not a matter of tolerance for some "price of admission", but rather that we have difference personalities and preferences, and what might drive one person crazy simply doesn't bother another much or at all.
 
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Already paid that price.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
Already paid that price.
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cardguy wrote :
That's a rather bizarre analogy, is doesn't match how I view my dates at all. For one thing, there's an implication in it that there's an agreed scale of the value of various characteristic (positive or negative), and the difference is just in our tolerance for the negative. It's not a matter of tolerance for some "price of admission", but rather that we have difference personalities and preferences, and what might drive one person crazy simply doesn't bother another much or at all.
Fair points. Also, I would reckon that there are different degrees of tolerance for the same "flaw" in different prospective partners. Let's say someone has a potty mouth but that's all that's wrong with them....everything else is perfect. Some people might find that characteristic either easier (or more difficult) to deal with given the absence of other flaws, whereas if they also let's say drank too much and had horrible table manners, the cussing could be the straw that breaks the camel's back.
 
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That's a rather bizarre analogy, is doesn't match how I view my dates at all. For one thing, there's an implication in it that there's an agreed scale of the value of various characteristic (positive or negative), and the difference is just in our tolerance for the negative. It's not a matter of tolerance for some "price of admission", but rather that we have difference personalities and preferences, and what might drive one person crazy simply doesn't bother another much or at all.
I have to agree with this.
 
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Hmm, the concept that one approaches finding their relationship partner with a balance sheet on which to add up the positives and subtract the negatives and that whoever has the highest positive number is the winner is totally bizarre This would bring to my totally logical mind:

1. There is no such thing as "chemistry".
2. People are nothing more that cold, calculating robots without any feelings.
3. You will never believe that you have found "the one" because the next guy / girl to come along may have a higher score.

Rather a sad concept this
 
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I think it also depends on how good the good qualities are. For some really really good qualities I'd probably be willing to pay a little more 'admission price'.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Rather a sad concept this

Why?

If your time on this service has shown anything, surely it is to make sound choice in partners?
 
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